NEWS FLASH!!! “Celebrities” Are Human Beings Too

Ok, so the title of this blog was suppose to be funny and sarcastic, at least I found it to be 🙂 LOL

We live in a world, where we think that people on TV are super human beings, just because we watch them. People on TV or if you choose to call them “celebrities” are human beings too. Which some of us forget. They go through the same thing, that people that are not on TV go through. They are not any more special than you and I, just because they have money or they are on television.

People in the public eye, just choose to share their talent in a public way on a broader scale, but never the less, they are human beings too. It’s ok to love your favorite artist and to love what they do and learn form them and draw some inspiration. But they are not perfect and should not be worshipped. I’ve met some artist that try to use who they are to their advantage, and think they should get special treatment. I had to give them a slice of humble pie and check them.

You have a lot of people that just want to be attached to a celebrity, just to say they know them or met them. I’ve met a few of my favorite actors, and I was very careful in my approach to them, especially when I asked to take a picture. Some artist don’t like to take pictures and fans need to respect that. Look how Prince was so adamant about picture taking and his personal life.

Once you take a picture with someone, in this age of social media and the internet, nothing is safe. You take a picture with someone and next thing you know, you are linked to them. You’re sleeping with them, based off an innocent photo. It’s always out there. Artist that want a private personal life, their significant other can’t take them being in pictures, with other people all the time because they are not secure.

I learned a lesson, when I told one of my friends I met one of our favorite soap stars. I had no idea she would post it on social media. As soon as I saw it I asked her to take it down., She shared it with a whole bunch of strangers. What did posting that photo do for her? She wanted to say that she knew someone who met someone famous, thats what it did for her. I don’t care about likes and comments. It’s not like she was in it. It was me.

The few actors that I have met people always want to know, why I never posted their photos on social media or why I have never shown them the photos. Well, there are several reasons…not that I owe anyone a reason but for….

1. That was my moment. 2. I don’t feel the need to show the world, especially social media, me in a picture with someone on TV. What is that going to do? 3. I value my privacy and the privacy of the artist, yeah I’m pretty sure, they take pictures with a lot of people, but it’s a personal thing with me 4. because I simply did not want to share. 5. I’m not start struck.

I enjoy artist for their art and I’m grateful that they chose to share their gifts and talents with the world, but at the end of the day, it’s just entertainment and artist are still human beings.

 

 

Pretending You Don’t Have A Heart Isn’t Going To Protect It — Thought Catalog

Danielle Drislane1. You can’t lie to yourself. You can lie to your parents when they ask you if there are any nice boys in your life. You can lie to yourself about how you can’t stand men and that marriage is bullshit anyway. You can even ignore those sexy dreams you’ve been having about your…

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12 Things You Need To Stop Feeling Guilty About Immediately — Thought Catalog

Natalie Allen 1. Not being where you thought you’d be at this point in your life. So you haven’t landed your big break or gotten married or written your bestseller yet. You know who else isn’t where they thought they’d be at this point? Pretty much everybody else. Just ask around – nobody has everything…

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When You Love A Person Who Comes From A Broken Family

mille-couleursWhen you meet someone who comes from a broken family you probably won’t know it right away. They’ll do their best to blend in, to watch their words, to make sure they seem like everyone else. It’s a habit they’ve picked up over the years. How easy it is to look like all the rest.…

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That List You Have Of The Perfect Person Doesn’t Exist

I know darling… and all this time you thought it did, but it doesn’t so throw it out. Yes, throw it out. You don’t need it. You never needed. If you had a list, the only thing ‘this list” did, was hold you back, from being open and finding and keeping the love that you want.

On our quest for love, some of us could have a list so long that, that we don’t recognize when love finally shows up. There’s nothing wrong with having standards. Everyone has an idea of the type of person, they want to be with and we need to, or else we will just end up with anybody.

But some of us, have an unrealistic list so long, that no human being can ever measure up to it. If you want the perfect mate, you mind as well become a scientist and plastic surgeon and create the perfect person of your dreams. Because that’s the only way, you will ever have the perfect person that you want.

When it comes to looking for love. The list that most people have, especially women do not exist. Why do some women have an external list, of the things they want instead of what they need in a man. Let’s keep it real, a woman’s list is longer than a man’s list. It just is. Some of the things that women require. Is just flat out ridiculous!

They want a ready made man. No man is ready made. Everything is external. Women think that if they don’t have this list, that they are settling. Some women require a man to be educated, (Nothing wrong with that, but a man can be smart in other ways) one or two degrees, (a degree doesn’t mean that you are a match made in heaven, theres no guarantee, a man wants to get married or have child just because he’s educated) a certain kind of car, house, salary.

A man should be a certain height, to the T, his physique, the way he walks, his voice. etc. There’s nothing wrong with wanting someone who is easy on the eyes. If someone has some extra weight on them, you two can work out and get healthy together. But that’s not all there is to someone. Whatever happen to falling in love with someones, soul? Having a nice personality? Getting to know who they are before you write them off?

Becoming friends first, which is the foundation for any relationship that requires love. 

Nowhere in this list did I hear about the type of man, he should be as far as his character. All I hear is about what he should have and look like. Men do this too. Men have considered me “attractive” and thats all they are focused on and the fact that I love to cook. That doesn’t mean we are a match made in heaven and it’s time to ride off into the sunset. Let’s have a conversation first, find out if I like you, If I want what you want. How about that?!

Looks can be deceiving. 

I’ve met some attractive men in the past who had money, nice car and you know what, they were complete assholes. The list above, maybe someone else would have wanted them but not me. They knew they were attractive and they wanted everyone else to know it too. There was no humility. I’m not impressed with external and materialistic things. That’s not part of my list. I don’t need a man that looked like he stepped off the runway.

I’d rather ride the subway with someone who treats me good and has a nice personality and spirit, who has potential and is ambitious. I dated a guy who didn’t have a car and neither did I, but he eventually got one. I didn’t cast him off, because he rode the train or took the bus. I rode it too! I was no better than he was.

At one point he was making $10 an hour, but it was a job and he stayed in that position for 4 months until he got a better job, he eventually saved up and got a car. I knew he wasn’t going to be a detailer forever. It didn’t matter that I was making more money than him. Any other woman would have probably wrote him off but I saw the potential and believed in him.

I don’t have a superiority complex, that in order to be with me, you have to have these things or else we’re not going to make it. I’m not marrying a car, house, money, shoes, clothes or electronics. I’m marrying a human being that will love me the way I need to be loved. Love should be not be based off  material possessions. 

When it comes to a list of requirements, men are very simple and direct with what they want in a woman.  I sometimes wonder, was there a secret meeting that some women, got together and had and voted about men and what they should have and I missed it?! Like the whole thing about you have to be engaged and married by 30 and have a baby. Who came up with that??? Then if it doesn’t happen, your life is over. Really!! If you’re 35 and older, you’re over the hill?!! Come on!!!

As a woman I don’t understand, I really don’t. If I’m missing out on something please enlighten me. I think the reason why women think this way, is because they think that they have to be desirable to men, all the time at a certain age, or else no one is going to want them. But men are quite simple. The majority of most men are more than willing to be everything they can be, for that one special woman, but the woman has to see the potential and believe in him.

Ok, so he doesn’t make six figures or he’s not millionaire. That doesn’t mean he never will be. But NEWS FLASH!!! Neither are you…If you want a man that’s a millionaire, you become one too. Or how about you two become millionaires together?! That’s a nice thought, isn’t it?! I think it is.

The real list should be the goals and plans that two people have together. If Men required women to have all of the above. They wouldn’t even hear of it. A man shouldn’t be pressured to carry most of the listed weight, just because he’s a man. You never know how love is going to show up. It might come from the person that you least expect.

God has someone for everyone…. but if all you are focused on is this list, then you are never going to find the love that you want and desire. You might find a good looking guy, that has a lot of money, but he’s not spiritual, there is no chemistry. He may be horrible in bed. He may be abusive, he might be a player. You might find a beautiful woman but the two of you may not be compatible. She just might want you for your money and that’s it.

There are a lot of nice guys out there that want exactly what women want.  But one mustn’t be picky and there are a lot of good women out there, that men are passing up on too, because they are so focused on the physical. Two people must be open and see past what a person looks like at some point, because lets face it, we are not getting any younger, all of our looks will fade one day.

Our weight will fluctuate at some point. All the beauty products and plastic surgery in the world, will not keep us young forever. We are not immortal but love is. Love is everlasting! Everyone on this planet has attractive qualities about themselves, that someone will eventually see and want someday. Beauty or being attractive is in the eye of the beholder.

So if you have this list, please throw it away. Rip that sh*t up, burn it! LOL… clear that mental list in your head too. Think about what really matters to you, in a loving partner. The answer doesn’t lie in what someone has. It lies in their heart and spirit.

There is no such thing as the perfect person, but two people can be perfect together.

 

8 Men Sound Off About The Qualities They Look For In A Woman

1. “I want a woman who is beautiful on the inside as well as on the outside. I’ve been with beautiful women but I’ll take a smart woman any day. Beautiful woman are everywhere, but she needs to be kind and spiritual. It wouldn’t hurt if she can cook because I can cook, so I want a woman who is willing to share the responsibilities with me. Some men want a woman to do everything. Hire a maid if you want someone to wait on you hand and foot. I want kids one day so I need to see how she acts around children too. I look for a woman with nurturing qualities, that’s always a plus.” -Mark 32

2. “Smart, sexy, who’s open mined. Has her own thing going on. I can’t stand needy and materialistic women. I’m looking for a woman who, sets herself apart from the average woman. A woman thats always ready for change. Independence is great, clingy women are unattractive. She’s gotta be able to throw down in the kitchen and in bed.” -William 35

3. “I can’t stand loud women who are ungrateful. I look for a woman who shows gratitude. Who acts like a lady. When I’m out with a woman. I have to see how she treats people. If she’s kind. How she responds to kids. How she talks. If she’s a good listener. I’m not looking for a woman to be like my mom, but I want a woman who knows how to cook or is willing to learn. I can’t see myself raising a family off of fast food, she also needs to be attractive and not let herself go. Fitness and health are very important to me. I’m a neat freak so I need a woman who’s equal to me in that department.” -Darrel 29

4. “One of the best qualities I seek in a woman is her relationship with God. God is first everything else we can work out. She also needs to be a clean woman. I’ve dated a woman who look good and smell good, but her home looked like a train wreck. We eventually broke up. Cooking is an attractive quality too because I cook. So being a modest woman would be great too. ” -Nicholas 38

5. “I need a woman that has my back and that supports me in my dreams. Is she can do that, than I’ll marry her. I can’t stand insecure woman who make everything about them. So she needs to be secure not a nag. I prefer for a woman to be nice, smart, attractive. Keep herself together. Cooking is not a priority but it would help.” -Sebastian 27

6. “I love a spontaneous woman. Someone who’s adventurous, who loves herself and loves life. I need a woman I can have a great conversation with. Beauty and brains is always a plus. She definitely has to know how to cook. I’m old school, my mom and dad cooked. My dad cooked more than my mom, but it would be great if she is good with kids as I have 2 of my own. So if she wants to be with me, she has to accept that I have kids and be able to cook for them.” Michael 43

7. “I’m a pretty simple guy, I’m  looking for a christian woman, she needs to be sweet, independent, smart, sexy, good heart, nurturing, as I have a little girl. Be great if she was traditional. Took pride in her home and domestic life, she needs to love animals. I love a woman who smiles and loves to laugh, doesn’t take herself so serious. I want a woman that we can build something together.”-Anthony 31

8. “I’m not trying to sound sexist but I’m looking for a woman thats submissive in a christian way, a christian woman. I want a woman that loves to be home, but she can still have her own life. My mom stayed home and my father provided so I’m looking for that. But todays modern woman, it’s hard to find that. I want a woman who loves me for me and that is not selfish.”David 37

 

 

If You Love Someone Tell Them And If You Love Someone Show Them

GOD IS LOVE

Love is the one thing, that all of us in the world, can give more abundantly of to one another. Love has the power to uplift someones spirit. When a person knows that they are loved, there soul is forever changed. They have a glow.and their heart is open.

Love makes getting through life’s difficulties just a little bit more easier.

Knowing that someone loves you, It can rejuvenate you. Knowing that someone loves you, “can make you feel like you can fly over the moon. “It brings a joy to your life, that you have never known”. –Allen McNeil

So many times we underestimate the power of telling someone we love them. We don’t tell them enough. We hold back. We even underestimate the power of demonstrating that love through our actions.

Sometimes we even forget to show ourselves love. We must tell ourselves that we love ourselves, by taking care of our heart and ourselves. Without love ones spirit can wither and die.

We must know that we are special and worth loving. We must know that our heavenly father, loves us and that we can always come to him, when our faith is wavering.

We must know that God loves us, even when we don’t love ourselves in any given moment. When we rise in the morning and take a breath and open our eyes, we must realize that, that is the love of God.

God shows us everyday that he loves us.

Love is all around us. The fact that we were all born is Gods demonstration of Love.

There are so many different kinds of love, love for family, friends, your significant other, love for animals, love for nature. But no matter what kind you have in your life. Always tell and show people you love them.

Don’t wait for a special occasion or holiday. That person needs your love now. Don’t wait until they have transcended and have regret, of how much love you could have shown them, while they were alive.

If you feel it say it.

Don’t wait for someone to walk out of your life, to show them that you love them. Never take advantage of someones love. Choose love over anger. Don’t worry about being right or who’s wrong just choose love.

Remember that some people have been hurt by that word love, so it’s going to take some action on your part to prove that you mean what you say. Don’t throw the word love away. Only say it when you truly mean it, to someone special.

Love should ascend you higher.

Whatever it is that you do, do it with love and passion. Love fearlessly as it its never going to hurt. Make love passionately as if your soul depended on it.

Don’t abuse the power of love or it will come back to bite you in the ass.

When someone shows you that they love you. Take it and nurture that love. Treat that love like a newborn baby with tender love and care.

When you cook for someone, do it with love. Infuse all that love into your meal. For they will surely taste it.

Be selfless with your love. Love on someone just because you want to. Theres nothing wrong with doing something nice for someone just because you want to.

Be a demonstration of love and always remember GOD IS LOVE!