I know a lot of women are not going to agree with post. I can see you now, as you read my words and turn your nose up at me. lol. But, ya know what? I really don’t care, LOL. It’s how I feel and it’s how a lot of men feel, and who better to express this notion than the one and only, …..ME :), LOL.
Thank you…thank you..hold your applause, lol 🙂
If you don’t like what I’m about to say, then stop reading right now. Don’t even waste your time. But if you want to learn something, get a new perspective then set aside your ego and continue reading. The choice is yours.
The responses I get sometimes, some women think I’m anti-female. How?? This is funny to me. I’m a woman, an opinionated in-depth woman. I just don’t agree with the way some women think and the things that they do. And contrary to belief, other women feel the same way. I believe a lot women are picky and get in their own way of having true love in their life by being so materialistic.
I’ve done my research, well more like, I listen to men and really hear them and a lot men are tired of spending money on women and they feel women just don’t appreciated it. They feel women feel it’s expected. Their worth of them being a man, is measured by how much they spend and this just isn’t fair. This goes for men who date and men that are already in relationships too.
Men don’t mind spending money on a woman, they just want to control how much they spend. I don’t think a man should spend a lot of money on a woman, he just met. This should be held for someone special.
Is there a relationship money meter that measures, this is how much you love/like me?
Some women feel, the more expensive the gift, the more he loves me and I have him wrapped around my finger. Now this article is not geared towards the whole female species, just the ones who are like this, lol. Here is my stance on why I feel men should hold onto their wallets, when dating a woman they just met. Men 9 times out 10 will go out of their way to impress a woman.
They figure , “wow, she’s going out on a date with me, she must like me, I gotta impress her.” There’s no rejection. This makes a man feel good, like maybe she can be the one. Or so he’s really, really hoping. They start thinking about the perfect place, and then if the date was a good one, they want to up their game on the next one. With this comes a hefty price, which usually leads to know where, depending on the woman.
A man who doesn’t spend money on you in the first few weeks is not a cheap man. He’s a smart man. A woman should respect a man who doesn’t spend, a lot of money on every woman he dates. If a man is just buying you gifts without, getting to fully know you first, and he doesn’t love you, be leery of this type of man, because it is clear that he is trying to buy your affection.
A man that doesn’t spend money on you right away, is showing you that he wants to take his time. He still learning more about you and what you like. It should show you that if he waits that you are special, not that he doesn’t think you’re worth it. (Kind of like when women hold off sex for a long time) But you have to earn and prove this. You can’t expect that just because a man finds you attractive, that’s grounds for him to be frivolous with his money.
What did you do, to deserve him spending his money on you and y’all just met? Why isn’t a cup of coffee or a muffin at Dunkin donuts good enough? I don’t know about other women, but I would feel uncomfortable receiving a gift from a man, I do not love or care about. That’s like having sex without love. It’s meaningless. I won’t even break bread with a guy I don’t like or find interesting in some way.
I like to see if the guy is about something first, before I agree to let him take me out and before I get all dressed up. I simply do not want to waste my time. Hell, I’ll eat before I meet him, lol…. or pack a trail mix in my bag and some water, lol…..just incase he’s an asshole and I can bounce, LOL. There’s is nothing more awkward then sitting down, to eat with someone who’s just the epitome of an asshole, LOL.
Most women should see if the guy is about something first. Before they get all attractive for some guy they barely know. I heard Steve Harvey tell his daughters and women in general, “stop going out to dinner with these dudes that ain’t about anything.” just for a free meal and I have to agree with him. This is just so you won’t waste your time.
When it comes to gifts
When you receive a gift from someone you love, it should mean something. It means you’re special. It shows that the guy buying the gift or treating you, thought about you. Some women, and you know its true, hold their self worth with gifts and free meals. They use this kind gesture against men, to see how the man truly feels. They feel the more expensive the gift or the bigger it is, than this guy must be really feeling me and he wants what a lot of men want eventually which is sex.
If a man is a gentleman, if he’s consistent, if he shows up on time, compliments you and makes you laugh and he puts thought into the date and into being with you, that’s sexy! Even spontaneous outings. That’s more of a turn on, than how much he’s spending on you. A man like this,… just might have a chance at getting the cookie, LOL. In less than 3 months, LOL…But that’s totally up to you. No judgement! Just be safe!
Women we are worth so much more, than an expensive gift or an expensive meal. Instead of worrying about how much something cost from a guy you barely know. Worry about if you are in great company and just have a good time. A man shouldn’t have to prove himself to you on the first date, and nor should you put all of your eggs in one basket. He could be an ax murderer, LOL… ok that sounded funny in my head LOL, but you catch my drift. I’m not saying deal with a cheap guy. I am saying stop expecting shit, LOL.
The only thing you deserve is for a man to be a gentlemen, respect you, treat you like a lady and that’s whether he’s spending, $10.00 or $100.00. (I’m still not over my friend and his $300 restaurant bill, that’s going to take me a minute, LOL). I know a few women that have wanted to try a new restaurant, but refuse to because they were waiting on a man to take them. Really!!! ( Insert confused emoji face). You don’t want to spend your own money and you’re waiting on some guy..any guy that likes you to take you out. Now that’s a damn shame but this is what some women do.
In conclusion a man doesn’t owe you a free pass to his wallet, because you’re a woman. And men really do have a right to hold onto their wallets, if they choose to. It doesn’t make him a bad guy. It makes him a smart guy, because this shows, that he’s not going to just throw his money away on just any woman. And that my dear should be a good thing! 🙂