Tell-Tale Signs A Woman Can’t Cook

04155859_such_a_lousy_cook_can_t_even_boil_toast_funny_poster_xlargeEvery day when I check my email, men are asking me. Do women still cook? Or Why don’t women cook anymore? When I check the stats on my blog. One of my most viewed articles, that’s viewed every single day is Why Men Love Women Who Can Cook.

What this is telling me is that hungry men across the globe are looking for a woman, who knows how to throw down in the kitchen. Even if a man can cook, he wants to know that the his wife-to-be, is going to be able to feed him and his children. I don’t know why this is so hard to understand.

Men let me give you a little advice… you listening…

If cooking is important to you and you want to get married one day and have a family. Find out early when you start dating a woman, if she knows how or enjoys cooking. Just ask. Don’t be afraid to have this talk. I keep hearing from men, that they have a beautiful wife or significant other but she doesn’t know how to cook. You men keep being blinded by the booty, I mean beauty, LOL..

Find ways to bring up the topic of food. If it’s not important to you on the first couple of dates, and you’re not really feeling her, then don’t mention it. But if you find yourself really liking a woman and you missed the mark of asking her if she cooks. No need to fret.

There are all sorts of signs that the woman you are dating, does not like to cook:

If you’re a dating a woman and she likes to eat out all the time, or ask what restaurant you are going to. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. If she never mentions inviting you over for dinner or going over to your house for dinner. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. Offer to take a cooking class for a date. If her reaction is lackluster. You know she has no interest in being in the kitchen.

If she has a drawer full of take menus within a 5 mile radius and restaurants on speed-dial. Thats a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. If you do get invited over to her house, mention that you are hungry or ask her what kind of dishes she likes to make. Based off her answer. Something like, I haven’t cooked in weeks. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook.

I know a few women that have confessed to not cooking in over 2 months and they have children. All I can think about is those poor children and her man. Every womans kitchen should look like it’s being used. I don’t care how clean a woman is. You can tell if the kitchen has been used. There should be signs of the gas range being cooked on and the oven being used. Even some grease escaping on the hood of the filter.

my-new-girl-told-me-she-was-independent-bro-u-know-that-means-she-dont-cook-b54feIf the woman you’re dating, if her kitchen looks like a model home’s kitchen. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. If a woman makes up excuses for not knowing how or learning how to cook.

For example, I know a few women that have said, I’m independent and I’m focused on my career, making money and my education. I don’t need to know how to cook for a man. That’s the dumbest shit I ever heard. As if educated people or working class people don’t cook.

If you’re in a womans kitchen, pay attention to the dinner ware and silverware that she owns. If she only uses plastic cups and plates or it looks like her silverware is from the 99 cent store. Then that’s another tell-tale sign she does not like to cook.

Look around to see if there are any cooking gadgets and utensils, that would normally be on the counter. Don’t be afraid to peek in the cabinets either, lol. Go for it! This is your chance to see if this woman you’re interest in dating, if she is “wife and mother material”.

The same way a woman wants to know if you have a degree or a make good money and drive a nice car. And she’s looking at your attire and shoes. Don’t be afraid take a peek around her kitchen. Lol. Open the fridge too or offer to make something to eat or get something to drink for the both of you.

If she jumps up real quick and doesn’t want you peeking in her fridge, most likely that’s because there is no food in there. Any woman who enjoys cooking, won’t mind you being in her kitchen. Pay attention to the cookware too. People who enjoy cooking will not have scratched up cookware that looks out dated.

If you buy a woman a cookware set or plates and silverware and her reaction is not a good one. That’s another tell-tale sign that she does not like to cook. A woman who loves to cook, will be elated she has new cookware. I remember a guy I was dating bought me a red plate and bowl I was looking at. When he gave it to me, he couldn’t believe how happy I was, LOL.

Yeah he laughed at me. He said, it’s just a dish not a pair of shoes. Damn, I never seen a woman get so happy over a plate and bowl. Well it was the thought that counts. I have been looking at the two piece set for a while, but I was waiting for the price to drop. I thought of all the pictures I could take with my food. How pretty it would look :).

I’m telling you men to do all of the above, because I’ve done it to women I know. When I go over to a friend’s house, the kitchen is the first place I go to. I’m always scanning another womans kitchen. LOL because I like to cook and I love food. When I open the fridge, the first thing they say is, I haven’t went food shopping. I’m like oh ok, you said that 3 months ago….(birds chirping)

They even start making up excuses on why they have not cooked. There have been a few times where I had to bring my own pot and pan over to someone house, because I couldn’t use their cookware. Not to mention a real dinner plate, bowl, glass, fork, spoon, knife gadget, measuring cup. Yeah, lol…I don’t eat off of plastic or paper plates. If it’s not 18/10 stainless steel, I’m not eating with it and neither should you.

Men of course you should know how to cook for yourselves. Especially if you live alone Cooking is a life skill. You should be able to cook for your lady too. Plus it’s healthier and it will save you money. But if you plan on being old-school and you want your future wife to cook. Make sure you know all of the above :).

Why Being A Late Bloomer Is The Best Thing That Can Happen To You

7f7bf87a96dc3a5c624384cedec4a519I was up in the middle of the night, having a conversation with God and I was thinking about my life and the things that I wanted to do and become when I was younger.

I had dreams of being a performer. The bug hit me when I was little. I wanted to dance, act and sing but I was always writing. My mom was my biggest supporter. I remember the look in her eyes when I told I wanted to be an actress. Tears of joy.

Like one of her children dared to dream. But my life took a detour when my mom passed when I was 14. I went to go live with my father and everything I wanted to pursue. I really couldn’t. There was no support at home and there was no support at school either.

The high school I went to had no extra curricula activities. I tried to start a dance team, step team and acting club but nothing. The kids there were lazy and unproductive. This school was absolutely the worse. I realized I wasn’t around a lot of dreamers and people who wanted more out of life, just people merely existing.

I needed to express myself. I felt trapped in a school where there was no creative outlet, except one creative writing class and english class. Finally some hope. I always loved to write. I just stopped after some things that happened at home.

I tried to pursue the things that used to bring me joy when I was young, but my passion for it died. It wasn’t fun. Later on, I put myself out there…I got a chance to be on a few television and movie sets. I always wanted to see what that life was like. Mission accomplished!

With my inquisitive mind, I would watch movies and shows and I was very intrigued, about what happens behind the scenes and who created the content. I thought all the dreams I had been left on the island. But God would step in and prove me wrong. That the gift he instilled in me, was still there.

That there was one thing that I love to do, that would slowly come back to me….. and that was writing.

In middle school, I love to write and direct and during assembly’s we would perform them. I remembered that feeling of writing and directing. So In my 20s I started writing again, then put it down. Life was getting in the way,  especially working in corporate america and my dreams took a back seat for a minute.

Eventually I wind up picking up my pen again and this time, the timing was perfect. But everything around me was falling apart. But I just kept on writing….The more I got deeper into it. It dawned on me that it’s ok to bloom late in life. I’m glad I didn’t pursue acting full-time, I never wanted to be in front of the camera anyway.

I always felt like the power was more behind the scenes. I wanted to be the person who wrote the content and see my words come to life. What I needed in life, that God led me too, was life experience. I needed to have something to write about. I needed to experience pain, struggle, love to build my character. I needed to have a testimony. I needed to have resilience.

The entertainment industry is not all it’s cracked up to be and you must have a strong foundation and faith in God to be able to withstand what goes on and to avoid temptation. If your faith is not strong you can fall for anything people say and do anything to make it. I didn’t want to be that person, partying, drinking, smoking, being with men.

In that world, you never know who wants you for you, or for what you have and who you are. The fame in that world of entertainment will blind you and even the money. I didn’t want people idolizing me and focusing on my looks, I wanted people to pay attention to my words.

Blooming late and continuing to bloom, God couldn’t have wanted me any other way. He’s directing my steps….I wouldn’t have it any other way because the more I write.

I know that God is just preparing me for something greater, than I could have ever perceived. So I don’t mind being hidden…I’m still being groomed…I got a break when one of my favorite artist let me write for them. Seeing my name up there. I’m like wow! That’s me!! Can you feel me cheesing, lol 🙂

No matter what area in your life, you feel that whatever you want, hasn’t arrived yet, whether it be love or your career dreams….whether you want to go back to school and get your degree,..just plan to do it. People who bloom late, have the best careers, the greatest stories and testimonies.

They are are strong and can better handle whatever life throws at them. Because life is the best teacher. They can handle money better than someone who is young because they waited. They have more patience.

A lot of us are not where we want to be yet, but as long as we’re working on ourselves and our goal every day, whatever we want is bound to come to fruition. Just don’t let age and fear hold you back or another person, because it can be paralyzing.

People will have you think that just because it didn’t happen at a certain age, that it’s to late and it’s not. It’s simply not your timing yet. So many people want quick results and they don’t want to wait They want to live the good life now, but they don’t realize it takes time, work and consistency.

A lot of people don’t have the appreciation, for everything that’s going on in the moment and all the lessons and experiences they are learning while they are pursuign their goals, because they are so focused on the end results. Or measuring their life by someone elses success. That’s how one misses opportunities when they come.

Just know that it will happen….It’s on it’s way and when it comes, it’s going to feel so good that it took this long. The journey will be so worth the wait so need to fret.

So just have faith and pray…enjoy the journey, so you don’t miss anything in between and most of all have patience. Because it’s coming and when it comes. I just hope you’re ready for it and can fully accept it and enjoy it. It can happen at any moment…get excited about whats yet to come 🙂 Gods got your back!

11 Men Who ‘Fell Out Of Love’ On The Excruciatingly Honest Reason Why — Thought Catalog

Even though men are expressing themselves, I can relate to every one in some way, except #10. #11 My ex never bought me anything for my birthday, ever.. when I spent so much money on his. Not wanting to come home to my own home where I paid rent, I knew I fell out of love.

Alivia Latimer1. “One day it dawned on me that the part of my day I hated the most was going home. I hated when I pulled into the driveway, I hated when I saw her car and knew she was there. I just wanted to be alone and be left by myself. I didn’t enjoy…

via 11 Men Who ‘Fell Out Of Love’ On The Excruciatingly Honest Reason Why — Thought Catalog

Date Someone Who Will Fight To Be With You Every Single Day — Thought Catalog

@linashibDate someone who will fight to be with you every day. Where out of the ocean of faces, the myriad of choices, and infinite possibilities, he chooses you. When despite the instantaneous attraction, the fleeing connection, and the elusive search for love that is associated with modern dating, he knows it is you he’s looking…

via Date Someone Who Will Fight To Be With You Every Single Day — Thought Catalog

How To Keep Your Home Organized

a-place-for-everything-quoteKeeping a home organized is not as hard as one may think. I get it, at times, you are just plain ol’ tired. I know the feeling, don’t we all. But I find that the best way to stay organized and to keep your home tidy is to get the mess, before the mess gets you. That mess didn’t accumulate on it’s on, someone had to do it.

You know those home stores, bed, bath and beyond, the container store, walmart, kmart. Even the 99cent store. They have everything you need :). Try stopping in there, you might be surprised what you can find, :). It’s not the shoe, clothing or jewelry store but guess what?? They sell brooms, mops, cleaning agents and a whole bunch of other things to keep your home organized and clean.

Everything in your home should have a purpose and a place. If it doesn’t trash it, donate or sell it. Trash for example, belongs in the garbage. Now I’m not being funny here… because I’ve seen people leave trash and food on the floor and in other places of their home. They drop something on the floor and walk away, next thing you know, a free-loading visitor (aka rat, roach or ant) comes and picks it up.

Just like dirty clothes or the laundry. It doesn’t belong on the treadmill or in the kitchen or on the floor in your room or bathroom floor. It belongs in the hamper. You can buy a hamper at walmart. Afer the laundry is done, fold and put away.  When you use something for example dishes. Wash it and put it away. I don’t care when you do it, just do it and not leave it there for days or months.

256fb6ec5f82272356be424a1219b88dOne of my biggest pet peeves is dishes in the sink. The only time I leave a dish in the sink is if it needs to soak. Other than that, I wash it immediately or before I got to bed. If you have a dishwasher use it. Dishes, pots, pans, belong in the cabinets, put away. Not on the counter or on top of  the stove or inside the stove for days and not in the bedroom either. Cabinets are there for a purpose, use it.

Get into the habit of putting things away. When you take off your clothes, hang them up, don’t throw it on the bed or on the floor or any other area of your home. Once you get into the habit of putting things away, your home will stay tidy and there will be no need to be overwhelmed by the mess.

Vacuum once or twice a week. Sweep, dust briefly 3-4 times a week, to keep dust from accumulating. It will only take a few minutes and mop the floor too. A lot of people do not like to mop. When you spill something mop it up, don’t leave it there. That goes for in the refrigerator too.

In all honesty, there should be no reason anyones home is a mess. If it is that just spells neglect and just laziness. Respect and love the space you’re in. If you pay rent there, respect the money and the space you dwell in and your landlords property. Love yourself enough to know, you deserve to live in a clean organized home.

Make a ‘to do list’ and keep it where you can see it. If you are overwhelmed with keeping it together. If you have kids make them help. Simplify your life and get rid of things and people because they can keep your place a mess.

When my last relationship ended,..oh man….(takes a breath….I’m smiling :)..) the joy of not coming home to dishes in the sink or in my bedroom or living room. My apartment was much cleaner, the way I left it. My bed stayed made, there was no hair on the sink, floor or toilet. No shoes on the floor for me to trip on. No clothes on the couch.

imagesYeah, I’m talking about a man, not a 2-year-old, lol. But I mind as well have had a child, because then it would make more sense, lol. I’m in no rush to live with anybody. I’m traumatized, lol. Only have people in your life, who respect your home and the way you live.

Men just incase you are reading….Nothing sexier than a man who cleans!! You want us to clean, clean too! When you shop for something, make sure that when you purchase it, there is a place for it. If not leave it at the store until you know where you are going to put it.

If you must leave something out. Make sure it’s neatly organized and not thrown. Like your robe, that can be placed on a chair or hook. Toiletries can be neatly organized but they should really be in the bathroom on in the drawer out of sight. Your home should looked lived in, but it should look like a model home, clean, organized and immaculate :).

Remember when you are organized in your home, you are organized in all other areas of your life!!

You Don’t Have To Like Me, But You Will Respect Me

dear-haters-i-have-so-much-more-for-you-to-be-mad-at-be-patientHATERS, don’t we all just love them :)…. They take time out of their day and life to read what you write. Stalk you on social media and then have the audacity to try to leave rude disrespectful comments.

They’re so unhappy with their own life, that they just love being venomous. Instead of haters reading what one writes and learning from it and growing, they want to get offended. That’s because someone (me) hit a soft spot.

I’m here to let you know I don’t care and thank you for taking time to read my blog. It’s very much appreciated :). I already know some women don’t like what I have to say about being domesticated.

They don’t want to hear the truth. Is disrespecting me really necessary? No it’s not. So stop it!. You don’t have to like me, but wait a minute,…..you don’t even know me to not like me. I’m not saying that’s all there is to a woman, being in the house, cooking and cleaning. Because I believe a woman should have rights too.

I think all women should speak their minds, be strong and be the best version of themselves. Be self-sufficient. A woman can be anything she wants to be in this world. Even if it’s a job meant for a man. I never understood female on female hate. Women are cautious with uplifting another woman or even with compliments. Men are not like this!

Instead of you reading and saying to yourself, “you know what this reader is right, I need to get it together. I deserve to have a clean home. Cooking is healthier. I can save money. I want to get married one day and  maybe even have a family one day and this behavior is not acceptable. You women want to write in with your snide venomous remarks.

I love being the way I am because of me, not for a man. I’m not grooming myself to be a wife or a mother. Most people think I already am, because of the way that I am. A lot of liberated, independent woman, feel because they work now and thanks to feminism, they feel they don’t have to take care of home anymore.

God made us the way he did to nurture and to be the caretakers of our homes.

Women breast feed for a reason. We’re suppose to feed our families. Men are supposed to provide and do their share. I don’t care what year it is, this should never go out of style. This is the reason why marriage is on the decline and so many families are out of sync and order, because we are slowly moving away from this natural traditional way of being.

Sorry…..but I’m not going to join in a bra burning session, male bash and go on strike, not clean and agree with you women about keeping a dirty house. Why are you rebelling against being a woman and having a clean house anyway? What about having a clean home bothers you?. I don’t know…maybe there’s a good reason, why your house looks like an earthquake hit it.

Maybe this makes perfect sense to you, having roaches, bugs and rats, lol. If that’s your truth and you are comfortable with it. Enjoy yourself! Enjoy being lazy…To each is own. Some women I know expect me to spend the night and get mad when I don’t want to come over. Just because I like a clean organized home and I enjoy cooking, don’t try to make me feel bad for it.

If you are a woman with kids (or single), you should really be ashamed of yourself. The majority of women I know are single mothers and I know it’s not easy. I’ve seen my mother raise the five of us and still cook every day and take care of the house. And some of you women only have a child or two a piece and you still can’t get it together.

Just because your parent (s) didn’t instill these important values in you, doesn’t mean you can’t do something different with your own child(ren). My dad was not a tidy person…..hey I’m just telling the truth…and my mom was the opposite. Men should step up too, if you are blessed to have a two parent household, but the majority of the time, women are home with the kids or they are single mothers.

If you can’t get it together. Ask for help. Your kids should be helping too. You’re not a super woman. As women we do a lot and we need help and a break at times. 

Your home should be your private oasis. It’s where you relax at the end of a long hard day. You should want to be in a clean house and have clean linen and a decent home cooked meal. Don’t get mad at someone who values having a clean home. Just because you see something in them that you are not. When you neglect your home, you neglect yourself, kids, your husband and everything else around you.

All that effort some women put into looking good, nails, feet, expensive hair, expensive clothing and shoes, put the same amount of effort into your home. You look good, drive a nice car but your house is a mess… really?!! Talk to the hand! You can continue to hate on my domesticated articles Just remember I’m the type of woman your man is looking for!