Ok God I Get It….Men Can’t Be Friends With A Woman

You know I’m the kind of woman who believes, friendship is the foundation for a long-lasting relationship. But it seems likes in this day and age it really is hard for some men. The things that have been happening to me lately for the past few years with men, really don’t make any sense. It really doesn’t. I’m tired of men abusing my trust.

The stuff men do to me and I’m not even dating them is ridiculous. Men never stop to think, am I making this woman feel uncomfortable. I shouldn’t have to feel uncomfortable, every time I step outside my door that some man is lurking around my house, trying to see if I’m with another man. Friends don’t do this to friends, but I see some men have trust issues when it comes to women.

I really, for the life of me, can’t understand why this is so difficult. I’m tired of men saying oh we can be friends, when there is a hidden agenda usually they want sex, of they’ll make time for that and flirting. I’m like ok God, I get it! When you don’t want to see something, God will continue to show you the same thing over and over until you get it.

A friend of mine said to me, “I don’t understand why would any guy miss out on an opportunity to be with a good beautiful woman such as yourself, you’re like perfect” that compliment was nice but it made me sad. The answer is simple, some men are stupid and assholes, LOL. They don’t know any better, it’s not their fault. They just don’t think.

I’m not saying some men can’t really get to know a woman, I’m just saying it’s hard for some men. I can see why the men I’ve met don’t have female friends. Thats because they don’t know how, to be a friend to a woman without thinking about sex all the time or without rushing. It’s crazy how their mind is at the altar after one day of being around me.

Remember when I wrote that I’m taking control of my love life in 2017…well scratch that….I’m not doing anything. I keep running into the same thing over and over again and I’m not even trying. I’m tired of possessive, controlling men, making it difficult to be friends, talk, hang out and have friendly conversation. I’m tired of men stalking me, men with issues and men that are emotionally unavailable.

I’m so tired of men trying to confuse me and send me mixed signals, men trying to string me along. I’m tired of being uncomfortable with men because they don’t know how to love. With the crazy shit I’ve been dealing with, I know God is trying to tell me to be alone and I am, “when people show you who they are believe them” no matter how much good you try to see in them. Being friends should not be difficult.

I’m a simple woman, don’t ask for much and the B.S. will not stop. But it will now, 2017 is almost here and I’m just really want to be alone. I know people say oh don’t let a few bad ones ruin anything… I’m not I just don’t have the time nor the patience. I’m to grown for this shit. I’m tired of men making me feel like I’m negative, because I question their behavior and want them to stop playing games.

What kind of “friend” just pops up at someone’s house and looks around and tries to see what I have going on. I’m not trying to be anything more with this person. I’m turned off and I’m tired. I’m not looking for anything. But a phone call and simple shit is too much to ask for. Apparently one must not be that busy to be popping up at my house unannounced.

This is the B.S that comes my way for no reason, when I’m a good woman and I get the shit treatment from men, then when I say something I’m attacking someone and I’m negative. Every woman has a right to know what a mans intention is. Whats his plans are for her. This is exactly why I’m celibate and proud of it because this is some B.S. I’m experiencing.

I relocated to start my life over and get away from negativity and now I’m dealing with it over here. Well it ends right now, because this is not love on a friendship level or even for a romantic one. All the things that I thought would be possible it’s null and void. I’m done trying to be a friend, when it’s obvious that I’m the only trying. It is what it is.

It would have been nice to share my life with someone, have some companionship now and then but I see that’s not possible with any man I meet. So God if you want me to be alone, fine, I been alone all this time, you have been keeping me and I see it’s for a good reason. I’m not looking for love, but I’ll just let you do your thing and write me a beautiful love story!

The Honest Truth About Why You Stopped Hearing From Me — Thought Catalog

ANTON MATTSSON You might think I wasn’t interested or I simply stopped caring. Maybe it was a fluke. Maybe I met someone who wasn’t you. But the truth was I cared deeply for you. I wanted you and only you. In fact, for a long time, I turned down a lot of people because there…

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He’s Not Your Forever Person If You’ve Suffered Through These 13 Disappointments — Thought Catalog

Twenty20, carlyseitz1. Canceled plans. You got all dressed up for him. You cleared your schedule. You even shaved. But at the last second, he canceled. Again. Without even giving you a solid excuse. 2. Unanswered messages. You’ve been staring at your phone for an hour, and still, no answer. You always reply to his messages as soon as they…

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Have Your Shit Together For You…Not For A Man Or A Woman

So many times when we are going through something and trying to get our life in order. We say “oh let me get my shit together for this woman or for this man”. No, get your shit together for you and only you. If you meet someone and you are going through something, if they don’t want to be there for you during your struggle, then they shouldn’t be there for your success.

I’m so tired of people not being there for one another, just because somebody is going through something. You mean to tell me, that just because someone doesn’t have a 9-5 or they work part-time or work from home or they don’t make six figures, that they are not worthy, that they can’t be friends with someone or they can’t be in a relationship?

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I understand that money is a part of the whole courting and dating, but it isn’t everything. Why are people so shallow. Just because someone is not where you think they should be, doesn’t mean you should write them off. There are ebbs and flows in life and for me, I notice that whenever I’m going through something and I meet someone, if I even hint around that I’m dealing with something.

It shows that persons true character about how they feel about me. God is showing me, who’s not for me. Men are doing to women, what women have been doing to men for decades. Writing them off because of money or not having their own material things or property that they think one should have at a certain age.

You never know what happened in someone’s life and why they are where they are. There are so many free things one can do. Whatever happen to enjoying someone’s company and getting to know them and just enjoying spending time together, because you like them and want to get to know them. Why does everything have to be wrapped up in money.

I’ve met men that after a few conversations or after meeting one time, they want me to help them with their bills. I’m like say what now?? WTF!!! I don’t even know you or love you like that to share my money with you. We just met…..slow down.

Everything that I’m working on and doing is for me and my future and my security and if I happen to meet a man and we have the same goals in life and love each other, enough to share our lives and everything else than so be it. But I’m not getting my shit together for some man.

As much as I want love. There are no guarantees. There is no blueprint that says once you have things in order, that the right man or woman will appear. Why do I need to have things lined up, for someone else to enjoy the fruits of my labor. How do I even know you are worth it?!

Have your shit together so you can feel good about the goals and accomplishments you set forth in your life. Don’t ever think that having things in order that someone will love you, because you have all these things. They are fleeting! You can have your shit together and realize that that person, only wants you for the things you have and not for you as a person.

2017 is almost here and we really need to get back to REAL LOVE and being GENUINE. I ask myself, why is everybody so selfish now a days, wanting something… Sex, money, material possessions, a mother, a sugar daddy,a maid, a baby. Is this really why some people want to be in a relationship?? Because if so this is sad especially when its done for all the wrong reasons.

 

You Deserve The Type Of Love That Makes You Feel Like You Matter — Thought Catalog

Unsplash, Norman TothYou deserve someone that makes you feel like you are loved. Someone that makes you smile without any effort. Someone that doesn’t forget to message or call you — not someone whose attention you have to repeatedly beg for. You deserve someone that you can eat pizza or fries with in your PJs and watch Harry Potter with all…

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