When we have a dream, we’re told pursue it, put all your focus and energy into it, in order for it to come fruition. But what if you find that you’re not as passionate about this dream you grew up loving and you decide to do something else?
Just because you decide to change your mind doesn’t mean you abandon your dream, it just means you are good at something else. Whats wrong with having more than one dream and many talents? Nothing! I’m all for telling people to pursue their hearts desires, but some people need a reality check when it comes to certain careers paths. Especially if it’s doing more harm than good.
You don’t want to lose yourself in pursuit of a dream. Many people want to skip the work part and go straight to the top regardless of what their dream is. They figure if they can just meet the right people, they won’t have to struggle as hard.
People I know, whenever they see people we used to know succeeding at their public careers. They are always asking me how come I’m not in the public eye? Telling me, “I need to get out there. That if it can happen for him or her it can happen for you too.” I get that they are being optimistic. But it’s easier said than done.
Truth is, I don’t want to be famous. I enjoyed the arts when I was in school, the creative part of it, connecting with my peers and connecting to their energy and emotions. But the business side of it, not knowing when you will get paid. The inconsistency, the constant waiting around, leaving your destiny in someone else hands, waiting for them to choose you, out of many people. Didn’t sound exciting to me.
Not to mention the competition and I’m not in competition with anyone but myself. I come from extreme humble beginnings and I never wanted to be a starving artist, literally. I’m not living in a car or couch or house hopping, in pursuit of a dream while trying to hold down 2-3 jobs just to land my big break. Pursuing a dream doesn’t have to be that difficult.
I believe in life you have to make your own way and there will be others along to help you a long your journey. I have an immense love and respect for the performing arts. I’m inspired by my favorite artist, whether they sing, write, direct or act. But I’m not as passionate about it as I once was. And the truth is you have to be passionate about something, in order to give it your all and to pursue it consistently and diligently.
But sometimes people’s passion can become borderline obsessive. Passion is great but not to the extreme. Who knows maybe one day I might be in front of the camera again but it doesn’t have to be acting. (I’ve tried to be hidden, move quietly but God has his own way, of pushing me out there lol 😐🤔) There are so many other creative fields to be in when it comes to entertainment. Helloooooo, do you pay attention to the credits rolling?
This may come as a surprise 🤔 but there are writers who wrote that visual art that you’re looking at. Robots didn’t write that lol. Someone with a creative mind wrote that. Someone with a creative mind directed that movie and film… and the actors came together with their creative souls to bring that visual story together that your witnessing on-screen. I honestly believe that the right opportunity is out there waiting for me. God just has me in preparation and in service mode and that’s perfectly fine for me.
I wasn’t supposed to go straight to the arts after high school. I lost my mom when I was young and had to take care of myself and others. So my dreams had to be put on hold. I had 0 support from family and friends. I had a lot of soul-searching and lessons to learn. For myself and to help others. Things that don’t need to be under a spotlight. I needed time to get to know and love myself, so I wouldn’t be lost in a world and business that can chew you up and spit you out, if you don’t have thick skin.
I don’t think people realize how brutal this business can be. How it makes you question your love and sanity for it. Some people can’t cope with rejection, as where I see rejection as opportunity. You see those behind the scenes shows of people’s lives, the ups and downs they go through in this business. Sure being in the spotlight may seem like fun but it’s not as glamorous as people make it seem. You gotta be in this business for all the right reasons.
If you’re not clear why you want to pursue your chosen profession, then you need to get clear or life and someone will make it clear for you. You have to have the right intention and spirit when you enter any profession and it can’t be for money, fame or recognition or adulation or to be around ‘A-listers’ and to wear nice clothes and have a big house. The entertainment industry is not the only way to enjoy the finer things in life and to be wealthy or to be somebody.
You have a lot of people in front of the camera and they are an embarrassment to the arts. A lot of people sell their souls just to be famous. People’s egos get inflated especially if you come from nothing now your rich and famous. It’s hard to find and be around genuine people with humility who really see you for you in this business. So many people are looking for an opportunity. I’m not here to tell you not to pursue your chosen profession.
I’m just saying it’s ok if you change your mind. You’re not a failure. It’s really ok to have more than one dream. It’s ok to go back to school and learn the business side of things. Not being in the spotlight doesn’t mean you are not a star internally. It doesn’t make you any less important than someone who’s on the cover of a magazine. It doesn’t mean you are not dreaming big and living a mediocre life.
It just simply means you changed your mind and you are allowed to change your mind, as many times as you want because you only have one life to live. You don’t want to be that person who’s walking around in life aimlessly, trying to figure out what you are good at, just because you chose to put all of your time and energy into one thing. But yet that one thing is not having a good ROI.
Thats not the smart thing to do. Any business career-minded, entrepreneurial person will tell you, that the real wealth is having multiple sources of income. Thats the key to building wealth, but wealth is also about giving back and in giving back, you may find something else that you are passionate about a long the way. For me, I’m really good at listening to people and counseling people. People are always coming to me, talking to me. So I took that as a sign from God that I need to counsel people.
Even though I love the arts and I love to write, there are souls out there that can benefit from my insight. So many people are suffering. Their souls need to be saved. There are other ways to be creative without being famous. I see it this way, we all have our own story but yet we are chapters in someone else’s story too and that my dear is a beautiful thing. To be a part of someone else’s journey and to inspire them in a good way.
I love what Devon Franklin said, “There are souls attached to your destiny” and as long as you can remember that, life will always be rich and fulfilling!!! Changing your mind can only make you better. Discipline is good but routine ruins passion for life. It stops you from learning, living and loving and that’s the one thing you do not want to do get stuck in, is routine, that’s mediocrity.
So go on and change your mind. Have fun!! Get excited about it!!!! Celebrate 🎊 🥂 🍾 I’ll celebrate with you!! Here’s to changing your mind and constantly creating, evolving and growing! You have one life, so make it count and leave a beautiful legacy, darling!!