Why Some Women Don’t Want Another Woman, In Their House And Around Their Man

The reason some women, don’t want another woman in her house and around her man, is not because they have anything personal against you. Or they think that their man will want you and vice versa. Or that You’ll sleep with him. The real reason is that women don’t want another woman, showing them up in their own house. They want to run their house the way they want to run it. Even if it’s chaotic and disorganized.

Let me go in-depth here… don’t I always, LOL :)…..If you read my article about being domesticated  It’s no secret that I value home life. It’s just how my mother raised me and I’m not going to apologize for it. I already confessed, LOL :)…

Any whoooo, the reason why it is difficult for women to share space with another woman, is because she’s afraid that that other woman in her house, is going to do things that her man likes and wants on a regular basis. Let me give you an example, a friend of mine seen all this pictures of food, I posted and she kept saying when you come to visit, you have to show me how to do this and you have to cook this for me.

I said sure, I couldn’t have been anymore excited, it’s just the cancerian in me…we love to cook. As soon as I came to visit, I cooked and she raved about my food to her man. While I was visiting, she never let me cook in her kitchen in front her man. Every time I kept saying I was going to cook, she kept saying “Oh I’m going to make this for dinner. You can cook tomorrow”.

This went on for about a week. Still she would not let me cook in her kitchen. Even when her man asked about my food. So I stopped offering. That’s because the things I make are not of out a box. When I cook I get into it.. I put my foot in it, lol… She didn’t want her man to taste my food, because she knew that he would like it and that she would have to get her ass in that kitchen and learn how to make a real meal.

Instead of that crap in a box, that she puts in the microwave or reheat in the oven and calls that a home cooked meal… She claims the food I make is to time-consuming and she’s an expert at buying things at Costco’s and sams club. I offered to make ravioli and she said, I already have some, it’s in the freezer.

I said “what the hell?!!! In the freezer. I like fresh ravioli not frozen”. I was going to make it by hand. My mom made all her food from scratch, which stretched the food for days. This generation of women…I don’t know where they come from. So being that I’m domesticated and I do things that other women don’t. This is the reason why they don’t want me in their house cooking or cleaning.

lsfekOne of my friends, let her man taste my food and she told me that he wanted her to make the same thing and she told him “I’m busy, I don’t have the time”. Now suppose he said “I don’t have time to work, pay the rent and buy you things”.

Now mind you, this is a woman, who does not work, does not go to school, she stays home every day if she’s not out shopping and vacationing all year round.

My thing is since you don’t do anything why aren’t you in the kitchen learning how to make a decent meal for your man and your child?

Instead of shopping and watching TV all day. Why isn’t one of those channels, the cooking channel?  This is baffling to me. A woman who doesn’t do anything, but claims she is so busy. Yeah.. busy doing nothing. Peanut butter and jelly is not dinner which I’ve seen some women give their kids instead of cooking. Or a frozen egg and sausage on a croissant or biscuit. Really?!! You can’t scramble an egg and some fresh sausage. Damn!

Breakfast to me is important when you have a family because, it’s how you start the day before you go to work and send the kids off to school. They need a healthy meal so their brains can function. Dinner is also important because after a long day, it’s family time. Not gadget time or, tv time or social media time.

quote-all-men-want-to-be-treated-like-kings-in-a-relationship-and-i-think-if-women-don-t-indulge-that-giada-de-laurentiis-54939If you are a woman and you stay at home, the minute your husband enters that hallway or opens that door, he should smell something cooking.

He should smell it when he gets out the car, lol.  All men want to know that their woman appreciates them providing and how hard they work everyday. They want to be treated like a king and there is nothing wrong with that. And one of the ways you show him, your affection is by cooking for him. No matter if he knows how to cook already (he should) but that’s not the point.

When I walk into another woman’s home and it looks like an earthquake done hit it. It’s written all over my face, how disgusted I am. I immediately ask where is the vacuum, broom or mop and cleaning agents. Just by me asking that, they should be ashamed that another woman is cleaning their house but they’re not.

I’m looking at this mess, like you don’t see this? And how the hell did food get on the ceilings and walls throughout the whole house? This is ridiculous! Other women don’t really like me in their house, because I get to cleaning and try to find a nice way, without insulting them, that they should too. A little child once told me, “you’re just like my dad, you’re always cleaning”.

Her mother heard her and laughed. Not once have I seen this woman, pick up a vacuum or wash a dish or do laundry. She leaves it for her husband. He’s Mr. Mom every day. If he doesn’t clean, the house would be a mess. She should be lucky to have him, But yet she’s teaches her children how not to take care of the house too. They don’t see their mother clean, so they don’t.

Women (and men) bust mostly women are supposed to set the tone in their own home. A man shouldn’t have to see another woman cooking and wonder why his woman does not cook.

Maybe he thought she’d changed once they had kids. That pretty face and body won’t keep him for long, if you can’t be versatile in other areas that he needs you in.

A woman once told me, “you handle your food with such care. I just throw it on the plate and eat it”. I said to myself I know, I see. I eat with my eyes and I’m all about presentation.

Yes, I know I’m going to eat it soon, but it needs to be appealing to my eyes first and who ever else I decide to cook for.

I put a lot of love and care into my meals and it shows and when people taste my food, they pick up on the energy I put into it, which is LOVE. I honestly don’t get why some women are just flat-out lazy and neglect their home. Women tell me oh your house is clean, because you don’t have kids. So they are trying to find an excuse for their house being filthy.

If you have pre-teens to teenagers they should be helping with the chores. Better yet get them while they’re young. Kids love to help out when you make it fun and rewarding. You can start them early as two years old. Don’t wait until they are 16, to tell them to clean their room or how to cook. They won’t listen.

A woman should take pride in having a clean home and cooking for her family not oppose it. It shows a sign that you care and love where you live. That you care about the well-being of your kids and your husband. If he’s providing a safe haven. You should be doing your part as his wife and making your home comfortable, nurturing and serene.

ORDER IN THE HOUSE, ORDER IN THE HOUSE!!!!

gavel-300dpi-smallCan you hear the gavel slamming? To those of you, who have a family. If you feel like you are losing control, with having order in your home.

Then it’s time to go back to more traditional ways with parenting.

Old school discipline needs to make a comeback ASAP.  Your child(s) life depends on it. Children today are not learning the values that they once did from back in the day.

I see so many single mothers especially and even some two parent households struggle to have order in their home. This shouldn’t be. You are the parent, not your childs friend. Everything starts at home. The way you raise your child at home. This will show them how they conduct themselves in the real world.

Children today have too much. unfortunately a lot of single parents think that the way to have balance in their home, is to give the child everything they want. Even if the child behaves badly and brings home bad grades. They still get rewarded for it. They are still allowed to do and have what they want.

I saw a woman on a talk, trying to get help from Steve Harvey about her son by way of hypnosis, for not doing his homework. She looked petrified to discipline her 8-year-old son. Parents why are you afraid of your child?? A child you carried for 9 months. Is your child the devil named Damien, LOL. Your child should fear you in a way, to know not to mess with you and know you mean business.

That when you say do your homework and do your chores, there is no back talk. There is no negotiating. Stop giving in!!! This child got to play video games as soon as he got home. Parents have to stop negotiating with their kids. Instead of this woman just taking the game system away, she gave in and let him have it in his room.

This is what most parents do, refuse to instill discipline. Children know exactly how to play on their parents emotions to get what they want and to not do what they have to do. This is very damaging, this child and like many children not taking their education seriously. Now youre raising an illiterate child who doesn’t see the importance of learning. This is why some kids drop out because they don’t know how to read and write.

If their parents don’t care, why should they care. This kind of lackluster attitude is the reason why kids manipulate their parent(s). I’ve witness a father turn off the tv, and tell his kids not to watch TV and do their homework and pick up their clothes and the kids, turned it back on and the mother did too. Because she did not want to hear her daughters complain or cry.

By her doing this, this why the kids choose to go against their father’s word, because the woman of the house, does this on a daily basis. Not once have I ever heard the mother say “listen to your father” or agree with him. That’s because she does not respect him as the head of the house, so the children don’t either. Most single mothers are tired and when they get home, they just let their child(ren) do whatever they want.

Because they don’t want to be bothered. They want to have me time, so they keep their child occupied and busy with TV and gadgets. Not monitoring what they are watching or doing. As long as they are out of their hair. Even when it comes to food, they let them just pop stuff in the microwave. The average single mother is tired and doesn’t want to be bothered. Therefore there is no order in the house.

The kids are not picking up after themselves. I’ve seen kids come home, throw their clothes on the floor and immediately go do other things. Instead of doing their chores. They always tell their mom (and even their dad) it will be done later. Now they have the authority and if they get away with it. They continue to do it.

Most kids in a single parent home have a tendency to not listen to their mom, because their mom is softer and more lenient. I’ve seen kids call their father mean, just because he tried to establish some order and discipline in the house. Now little girls that will turn into young women and eventually an adult, will think that all good men are bad.

They will not let a man tell them what to do, because they don’t respect authority and leadership. Because they see their mother talk back and disrespect their father. I knew a woman who left her man, took the kids away from him, because he wanted her to be responsible and cook and clean and he has OCD. Pretty much he wanted her to be a mother.

Nows she’s with a woman, that’s untidy just like her, because she didn’t want to clean and listen to a man. She’s raising her kids to be the same way. What kind of dumb ish is that?? She dropped out of school now it looks like her son is headed the same way and she gave up and doesn’t care. You see the cycle here? Letting your child do whatever they want is not the best way to raise a productive adult for society.

Parents today really need to go back to the way, our great grandmothers and elders raised their children. Starting with home cooked meals. I’m really tired of seeing young kids eat crap every day, just because their mother refused to cook a home cooked meal. A child that’s 5 years old and up, should not know how to even use a microwave to prepare themselves dinner.

I’m sorry but this is bad parenting. When I was a toddler my mom had me in the kitchen. I’m 36 and I’ve been cooking ever since. Now I’m not saying you can’t go out to eat every once in a while. Because even people who cook get tired of cooking, but not 365 days out of the year, you eat out or you’ve become a microwave queen.

And everything you buy is already in a box. That’s not a home cooked meal for your family. The worst advice I ever got from a woman who had kids, was “set a side a budget to buy lean cuisine and to eat out, because women are not cooking anymore and people in CA do not want you in their kitchen”. And this was coming from a woman who was 56. She should know better and be ashamed.

No child should be allowed to avoid responsibility. Kids today get away with too much, this is why they don’t know how to cook and clean when they get out on their own. That’s because their mother didn’t teach them that having a clean home and cooking was important. Everyone should love a clean home. Your home is not a landfill.

Everything starts at home, the values and life skills you teach your children will take them further in life. They will be more disciplined in all areas of their life. Stop enabling them to keep them quiet. They need these life skills to be self-sufficient. One day they will have a family of their own and teach their children the same things they were taught.

Don’t raise a slob. No ones home should look like a bomb hit it and dishes are in the sink for days and the laundry is piled up like mountains. Stop being lazy and establish some order in your own home. Take back your power and stop letting a child rule you. Stop rewarding bad behavior. Only reward good behavior Show some tough love. They will thank you for it later.

It’s Never To Early To Instill Good Habits And Responsibility With Your Child

When you look at this picture, what are your thoughts? Do you think these children are to young, to learn how to clean?  (Before I continue, I just thought this was so cute, lol :). It reminded me of when I was a baby cleaning, except mines was a toy vacuum. Who didn’t have a toy vacuum, lol.) Everyone may have their own POV. But here is mine, I don’t think there is anything wrong with this picture at all. Here’s why, because It’s never to early, to instill good habits and responsibility with your child while they are young. A toy vacuum could be a great toy for a young child, to have to instill healthy cleaning habits.

Back in the day, if you are a 60s, 70s, 80, or 90s child, it seems like parents (even the single parent house) had more control over their household. Parents back then did not play around when it came to responsibility? What happened?! Parents back in the day, weren’t trying to be their child’s friend. They knew their role and they owned up to it. There was no negotiating and telling your parent(s) “I’ll do it later”. Later? Hell you mean later?!…..Later would get you an ass wooping, lol. Now, I don’t condone beating your child, but there was no negotiating. If you argued or got an attitude you were disciplined. Kids back then did as they were told.

When you woke up, you had to make your bed, you got ready for the school day. After school when you got home, the first things you had to do was, take off your shoes, change your clothes, put them away, wash your hands, since you just came from outside, do your homework, and maybe you were allowed to have a little snack before dinner. Families back then ate together.

You had to do all these things before you went outside to play. There was no watching tv or playing video games. You also had chores to do if need be. Now a days not so much so, it seems like the child is running the house and the single parents are simply, letting their child get away with not be a responsible child.

Parents are afraid to instill some type of responsibility when it comes to their child. They don’t want to be looked at as the “bad guy”. They want brownie points with their child. They feel it would make them love them more and keep peace in the house. I’ve witness this with all my friends that are single mothers, they are constantly trying to get their kid(s) to clean or do their homework. The crazy thing about it is, they are old enough to clean in the age range of 10 to 17. At that age, your room should not not look like a bomb exploded.

kids-messy-roomKids today just have to much, they do. If a parent doesn’t feel like arguing with their child to clean their room or do their homework or any chores, they send them to their room and they have all the gadgets in the world. Kids look forward to being grounded. Anything they can do to avoid responsibility. I’m not saying this is the case for every household, but the people I know, this is so much the case on a daily basis.

I’ve witness the most atrocious living situations and it literally gave me an anxiety attack and sent me to the hospital. One things for sure is that these single mothers, never learn the importance of keeping house. They themselves do not clean and therefore their children do not clean. Their parents didn’t clean either, so it was never instilled in them this type of responsibility. So it’s a cycle.

The earlier you start your child off they better. Waiting later on in life to instill responsibility, you may not have any success. Kids will rebel. Kids need to be taught this by the time they are young. One thing I learned from having a niece and nephew and working with kids, is that kids like to help out, more than you think they do. They really do. If you do something with a smile on your face and laugh, a child will want to do it too. They want to feel the same kind of joy. They think its fun and kids are all about having fun and learning.

Their minds are discovering new things as they observe the world around them. Kids are really like sponges, they soak up everything you do and say. Why not throw some responsibility in their while they are young. I remember when my little angels asked me if they could help me clean my apartment, the next time they visited me, LOL and people looked at them in dismay and like they were crazy. They laughed and wondered. What child likes to clean? They thought I had them up under some type of spell. LOL.

Kids like to be independent. They’ll yell out “let me do it” “I can do it”. Ever notice that your child likes to feed themselves when they get to a certain age, they like to put on their own clothes, brush their teeth, if they see you doing something out of habit, they want to do it too. It makes them feel like a grown up. If you have more than one child, once a newborn enters the pictures, they like to help out too, by feeding or holding the baby. They want to be the big brother or sister and with that comes trust and responsibility.

They saw me cleaning and wanted to help. I made it fun for them, we put on some music and they vacuumed. They helped me fold the laundry and made the bed, swept and mopped. My nephew even cleaned the toilet, lol. Kids like being in a clean environment, it makes them feel loved and cared for. It really brings them joy. Teaching your child responsibility is not teaching them to be a maid or slave, it’s instilling important values in them, that they will later on need in their life, especially when they live on their own and start a family. Responsibility starts at home.

I get that single mothers are tired but neglecting your home and not teaching your child responsibility is not an excuse to keep a messy house. I’ve heard plenty of my friends say “I work, I shouldn’t have to clean” (I heard that scooby-doo voice in my head, lol) repeat that again please?!…then who the hell is going to clean?? The child is not doing it. Some parents can’t get their kids to clean for anything and they give up hope. To some it’s simply not important and that’s very sad.

Since women are working and may even be the sole breadwinner. Some dads are staying home to raise their child instead of day care. Men are stepping up to the plate and being more domesticated. (which is quite sexy :), lol). One of my favorite entertainers on youtube LaGuardia Cross, shows just how much fun fatherhood could be, as he takes us a long his crazy fun adventures with his beautiful daughter Amalah. You gotta see these videos, they are just the cutest :). I love these two so much! The key is to make cleaning fun, to bond with your child. Don’t let your child see it as a form punishment. They shouldn’t dread cleaning. Now you may ask how? Well, besides kids wanting to help just because they want to, Kids like being like adults. Little girls want to be like their mom and little boys want to be like their dad.

While your child is young, and while you are potty training them, you can teach them other things as well. I’m not saying give a one year old a mop and bleach. I’m just saying these things are really teachable at a young age. You can teach the importance of cleaning by teaching them to put away their toys, they do this at school too. Teachers teach kids the importance of cleaning before snack time and nap time. If a child wants to do something like go to the park and you are pressed for time

You can say something like “well mommy has to clean, would you like to be a big girl or big boy and help mommy out”? Throw in a reward after, when I cleaned and helped out, my mom would give me money and I saved it. I loved earning my own money. This instilled in me that I had to work and earn my own money and that no one was going to hand me anything in life. Another important value that kids need to learn, especially the value of a dollar.

There are ways to get your child(ren) to clean. It really is not that difficult. If you are having a problem in this area then, it may be best, to seek help from your parents if they are around or find a support group with other mothers and share stories. The key is to not get overwhelmed.

Children can also help out in the kitchen too. Not only is this a great life skill, it will teach them how to be healthy on their own and when they start a family. It will teach them how to be frugal too. I started grocery shop My mom instilled this in me, I don’t eat out. I cook, my mom had me in the kitchen when I was a baby. It will also give kids something productive to do, instead of watching tv and playing videos games.

I love shows like “Chopped Junior” those kids remind me of myself when I was home with my mom and when I had home economics as a child in middle school. A course that seriously needs to make a comeback in our schools. Because some kids are just not learning these life skills at home. Being domesticated and traditional is not a bad thing, it should be embraced more. Just because times have changed and its 2016, doesn’t mean we need to stop being traditional in our homes and the way we raise our kids.

The earlier you start the better. Kids don’t stay little forever, they do grow up into full blown adults, lol. I can not tell you the many times, that I have heard men refusing to date a woman, because of how a woman keeps her house and women not dating a man because he doesn’t clean either. No one wants to live with a slob. I refuse to live with someone, that has no basic home training. There are people that can live with me, because I’m clean but I can’t live with them.

Parents just remember, you are the parent, it starts with you. Don’t be afraid to instill responsibility in your child at a young age. This is vital and they need this. Know that you are raising a productive child, that will later be an adult. They will go out into the real world and this type of discipline and responsibility will prepare them for the real world, and in all areas of their life. Teach your child while they are young, teach them that this is important and they will continue the cycle for generations to come.