Dinner Is Going To Be Good Tonight!!

In case you haven’t figured it out, I love to cook. I love coming up with creative ideas for food. I’m sitting here thinking about dinner. I have some chicken marinading in some teriyaki sauce, pineapple juice, brown sugar and some red wine and garlic…

Hmmmm so good, I can’t wait to get home and cook. Who says red wine is just for drinking :). With my chicken I’m going to pair it with, some garlic rice pilaf and some roasted, caramelized brussels sprouts mixed with pecans and walnuts…

Ok…. I’m salivating right now, Lol…sometimes I wish I had the company of a good man to enjoy a nice candlelit dinner, some music and some slow dancing…then we can turn each other into dessert :)…….whatever happen to romantic men?

Maybe one day….one second thought let me rethink that, lol. The last guy I had dinner with, got spoiled and never took me out, he tried to marry me after 2 meals lol..

Looks like it’s just a meal for one for now :), until I can meet a sane man one day, lol. Who will appreciate this woman who likes to cook, because she loves it and truly enjoys it!

Tell-Tale Signs A Woman Can’t Cook

04155859_such_a_lousy_cook_can_t_even_boil_toast_funny_poster_xlargeEvery day when I check my email, men are asking me. Do women still cook? Or Why don’t women cook anymore? When I check the stats on my blog. One of my most viewed articles, that’s viewed every single day is Why Men Love Women Who Can Cook.

What this is telling me is that hungry men across the globe are looking for a woman, who knows how to throw down in the kitchen. Even if a man can cook, he wants to know that the his wife-to-be, is going to be able to feed him and his children. I don’t know why this is so hard to understand.

Men let me give you a little advice… you listening…

If cooking is important to you and you want to get married one day and have a family. Find out early when you start dating a woman, if she knows how or enjoys cooking. Just ask. Don’t be afraid to have this talk. I keep hearing from men, that they have a beautiful wife or significant other but she doesn’t know how to cook. You men keep being blinded by the booty, I mean beauty, LOL..

Find ways to bring up the topic of food. If it’s not important to you on the first couple of dates, and you’re not really feeling her, then don’t mention it. But if you find yourself really liking a woman and you missed the mark of asking her if she cooks. No need to fret.

There are all sorts of signs that the woman you are dating, does not like to cook:

If you’re a dating a woman and she likes to eat out all the time, or ask what restaurant you are going to. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. If she never mentions inviting you over for dinner or going over to your house for dinner. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. Offer to take a cooking class for a date. If her reaction is lackluster. You know she has no interest in being in the kitchen.

If she has a drawer full of take menus within a 5 mile radius and restaurants on speed-dial. Thats a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. If you do get invited over to her house, mention that you are hungry or ask her what kind of dishes she likes to make. Based off her answer. Something like, I haven’t cooked in weeks. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook.

I know a few women that have confessed to not cooking in over 2 months and they have children. All I can think about is those poor children and her man. Every womans kitchen should look like it’s being used. I don’t care how clean a woman is. You can tell if the kitchen has been used. There should be signs of the gas range being cooked on and the oven being used. Even some grease escaping on the hood of the filter.

my-new-girl-told-me-she-was-independent-bro-u-know-that-means-she-dont-cook-b54feIf the woman you’re dating, if her kitchen looks like a model home’s kitchen. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. If a woman makes up excuses for not knowing how or learning how to cook.

For example, I know a few women that have said, I’m independent and I’m focused on my career, making money and my education. I don’t need to know how to cook for a man. That’s the dumbest shit I ever heard. As if educated people or working class people don’t cook.

If you’re in a womans kitchen, pay attention to the dinner ware and silverware that she owns. If she only uses plastic cups and plates or it looks like her silverware is from the 99 cent store. Then that’s another tell-tale sign she does not like to cook.

Look around to see if there are any cooking gadgets and utensils, that would normally be on the counter. Don’t be afraid to peek in the cabinets either, lol. Go for it! This is your chance to see if this woman you’re interest in dating, if she is “wife and mother material”.

The same way a woman wants to know if you have a degree or a make good money and drive a nice car. And she’s looking at your attire and shoes. Don’t be afraid take a peek around her kitchen. Lol. Open the fridge too or offer to make something to eat or get something to drink for the both of you.

If she jumps up real quick and doesn’t want you peeking in her fridge, most likely that’s because there is no food in there. Any woman who enjoys cooking, won’t mind you being in her kitchen. Pay attention to the cookware too. People who enjoy cooking will not have scratched up cookware that looks out dated.

If you buy a woman a cookware set or plates and silverware and her reaction is not a good one. That’s another tell-tale sign that she does not like to cook. A woman who loves to cook, will be elated she has new cookware. I remember a guy I was dating bought me a red plate and bowl I was looking at. When he gave it to me, he couldn’t believe how happy I was, LOL.

Yeah he laughed at me. He said, it’s just a dish not a pair of shoes. Damn, I never seen a woman get so happy over a plate and bowl. Well it was the thought that counts. I have been looking at the two piece set for a while, but I was waiting for the price to drop. I thought of all the pictures I could take with my food. How pretty it would look :).

I’m telling you men to do all of the above, because I’ve done it to women I know. When I go over to a friend’s house, the kitchen is the first place I go to. I’m always scanning another womans kitchen. LOL because I like to cook and I love food. When I open the fridge, the first thing they say is, I haven’t went food shopping. I’m like oh ok, you said that 3 months ago….(birds chirping)

They even start making up excuses on why they have not cooked. There have been a few times where I had to bring my own pot and pan over to someone house, because I couldn’t use their cookware. Not to mention a real dinner plate, bowl, glass, fork, spoon, knife gadget, measuring cup. Yeah, lol…I don’t eat off of plastic or paper plates. If it’s not 18/10 stainless steel, I’m not eating with it and neither should you.

Men of course you should know how to cook for yourselves. Especially if you live alone Cooking is a life skill. You should be able to cook for your lady too. Plus it’s healthier and it will save you money. But if you plan on being old-school and you want your future wife to cook. Make sure you know all of the above :).

Why Some Women Don’t Want Another Woman, In Their House And Around Their Man

The reason some women, don’t want another woman in her house and around her man, is not because they have anything personal against you. Or they think that their man will want you and vice versa. Or that You’ll sleep with him. The real reason is that women don’t want another woman, showing them up in their own house. They want to run their house the way they want to run it. Even if it’s chaotic and disorganized.

Let me go in-depth here… don’t I always, LOL :)…..If you read my article about being domesticated  It’s no secret that I value home life. It’s just how my mother raised me and I’m not going to apologize for it. I already confessed, LOL :)…

Any whoooo, the reason why it is difficult for women to share space with another woman, is because she’s afraid that that other woman in her house, is going to do things that her man likes and wants on a regular basis. Let me give you an example, a friend of mine seen all this pictures of food, I posted and she kept saying when you come to visit, you have to show me how to do this and you have to cook this for me.

I said sure, I couldn’t have been anymore excited, it’s just the cancerian in me…we love to cook. As soon as I came to visit, I cooked and she raved about my food to her man. While I was visiting, she never let me cook in her kitchen in front her man. Every time I kept saying I was going to cook, she kept saying “Oh I’m going to make this for dinner. You can cook tomorrow”.

This went on for about a week. Still she would not let me cook in her kitchen. Even when her man asked about my food. So I stopped offering. That’s because the things I make are not of out a box. When I cook I get into it.. I put my foot in it, lol… She didn’t want her man to taste my food, because she knew that he would like it and that she would have to get her ass in that kitchen and learn how to make a real meal.

Instead of that crap in a box, that she puts in the microwave or reheat in the oven and calls that a home cooked meal… She claims the food I make is to time-consuming and she’s an expert at buying things at Costco’s and sams club. I offered to make ravioli and she said, I already have some, it’s in the freezer.

I said “what the hell?!!! In the freezer. I like fresh ravioli not frozen”. I was going to make it by hand. My mom made all her food from scratch, which stretched the food for days. This generation of women…I don’t know where they come from. So being that I’m domesticated and I do things that other women don’t. This is the reason why they don’t want me in their house cooking or cleaning.

lsfekOne of my friends, let her man taste my food and she told me that he wanted her to make the same thing and she told him “I’m busy, I don’t have the time”. Now suppose he said “I don’t have time to work, pay the rent and buy you things”.

Now mind you, this is a woman, who does not work, does not go to school, she stays home every day if she’s not out shopping and vacationing all year round.

My thing is since you don’t do anything why aren’t you in the kitchen learning how to make a decent meal for your man and your child?

Instead of shopping and watching TV all day. Why isn’t one of those channels, the cooking channel?  This is baffling to me. A woman who doesn’t do anything, but claims she is so busy. Yeah.. busy doing nothing. Peanut butter and jelly is not dinner which I’ve seen some women give their kids instead of cooking. Or a frozen egg and sausage on a croissant or biscuit. Really?!! You can’t scramble an egg and some fresh sausage. Damn!

Breakfast to me is important when you have a family because, it’s how you start the day before you go to work and send the kids off to school. They need a healthy meal so their brains can function. Dinner is also important because after a long day, it’s family time. Not gadget time or, tv time or social media time.

quote-all-men-want-to-be-treated-like-kings-in-a-relationship-and-i-think-if-women-don-t-indulge-that-giada-de-laurentiis-54939If you are a woman and you stay at home, the minute your husband enters that hallway or opens that door, he should smell something cooking.

He should smell it when he gets out the car, lol.  All men want to know that their woman appreciates them providing and how hard they work everyday. They want to be treated like a king and there is nothing wrong with that. And one of the ways you show him, your affection is by cooking for him. No matter if he knows how to cook already (he should) but that’s not the point.

When I walk into another woman’s home and it looks like an earthquake done hit it. It’s written all over my face, how disgusted I am. I immediately ask where is the vacuum, broom or mop and cleaning agents. Just by me asking that, they should be ashamed that another woman is cleaning their house but they’re not.

I’m looking at this mess, like you don’t see this? And how the hell did food get on the ceilings and walls throughout the whole house? This is ridiculous! Other women don’t really like me in their house, because I get to cleaning and try to find a nice way, without insulting them, that they should too. A little child once told me, “you’re just like my dad, you’re always cleaning”.

Her mother heard her and laughed. Not once have I seen this woman, pick up a vacuum or wash a dish or do laundry. She leaves it for her husband. He’s Mr. Mom every day. If he doesn’t clean, the house would be a mess. She should be lucky to have him, But yet she’s teaches her children how not to take care of the house too. They don’t see their mother clean, so they don’t.

Women (and men) bust mostly women are supposed to set the tone in their own home. A man shouldn’t have to see another woman cooking and wonder why his woman does not cook.

Maybe he thought she’d changed once they had kids. That pretty face and body won’t keep him for long, if you can’t be versatile in other areas that he needs you in.

A woman once told me, “you handle your food with such care. I just throw it on the plate and eat it”. I said to myself I know, I see. I eat with my eyes and I’m all about presentation.

Yes, I know I’m going to eat it soon, but it needs to be appealing to my eyes first and who ever else I decide to cook for.

I put a lot of love and care into my meals and it shows and when people taste my food, they pick up on the energy I put into it, which is LOVE. I honestly don’t get why some women are just flat-out lazy and neglect their home. Women tell me oh your house is clean, because you don’t have kids. So they are trying to find an excuse for their house being filthy.

If you have pre-teens to teenagers they should be helping with the chores. Better yet get them while they’re young. Kids love to help out when you make it fun and rewarding. You can start them early as two years old. Don’t wait until they are 16, to tell them to clean their room or how to cook. They won’t listen.

A woman should take pride in having a clean home and cooking for her family not oppose it. It shows a sign that you care and love where you live. That you care about the well-being of your kids and your husband. If he’s providing a safe haven. You should be doing your part as his wife and making your home comfortable, nurturing and serene.

Confessions Of A Domesticated Woman, LOL

urlI thought the title of this should have been “Help I’m To Domesticated LOL” because it sounded funny in my head, but I feel like this is more of a confession, that I can no longer keep inside,LOL…

That picture of Rachel Ray smiling in the kitchen while cooking, that’s exactly how I look when I cook :).

You ready? Here it goes…. I love to cook. I enjoy cooking, cleaning and being organized. I love having a clean home. Home is everything to me. It brings me joy!

Now I can take a deep breathe,.. ok that wasn’t so bad. There I said it and I’m gonna say it again, LOL.

I love to cook. I enjoy cooking, cleaning and being organized. I love having a clean home. Home is everything to me. It brings me joy! I love to cook. I enjoy cooking, cleaning and being organized. I love having a clean home. Home is everything to me. It brings me joy! I love to cook. I enjoy cooking, cleaning and being organized. I love having a clean home. Home is everything to me. It brings me joy!

Ok that’s enough, LOL . Had to get that out my system Confessions are good for the soul, LOL.

urlI’ve been thinking about writing this post for quite some time, It’s been sitting in my draft folder for months…..but I put it off because I didn’t want the marriage proposals to come in, lol…(you’d be surprise when a man hears, that a woman likes to cook and clean, how fast they go ring shopping, lol) anyway over the weekend. I saw an updated clip about “The Queen Of CleanLinda Cobb on Oprah’s “Where Are They Now” and I just said to myself, you know what? I’m not going to be ashamed of this part of myself anymore. If Linda Cobb can be this way and enjoy it, so can I. (Be sure to sign up for tips and emails on Linda’s website) And subscribe to her youtube channel 🙂

I even confessed to a male friend of mine, but I know there are others out there just like me, who just may need a little help with their own domestic confessions :). Just like there are women out there who take pride in being a wife and mother.  Adele talked about her greatest accomplishment, not her music, or the money and things she had, but being a mom and this set feminist women off. They had a field day throwing her under the bus. When I heard Tia Mowry say on her show, that her husband is lucky, because she likes to cook and clean and she was all happy with tears in her eyes and smiling.

I was happy for her and got teary eyed too, lol. I realized in that moment I wanted someone who would appreciate all of me too, not just the fact that I can cook. But the love and warmth I would bring to our home. Tia’s husband appreciates her too and they cook together and prepare healthy meals for each other and their son. Her son loves quinoa and vegetables :). You gotta get them, while they are young. I hear from so many men that their woman does not cook, even for their kids and that hurts me.

I thought it was just a cancerian thing. Her twin sister Tamera also feels the same way. Cancers are like the mothers of the zodiac. We’re always feeding people. Our home is everything to us. but this is just who I am and not because I’m a woman but just because, I love to cook. I enjoy cooking, cleaning and being organized. I love having a clean home. Home is everything to me. It brings me joy! Yeah I said it again lol,…moving right along…

In the clip that with Linda, she just looked so happy and she enjoyed what she did and Oprah looked shocked, that she enjoyed cleaning and stain removal. Linda has made a fortune in doing what she loves as she truly enjoys doing it. No matter what one does in life, they should always enjoy it and it will not seem like work. ” Do what you love and Love what you do.”

I’m not the only one who feels this way about their home and cooking, Martha Stewart, Rachel Ray, The Pioneer Woman, to name a few have all made a living, out of being domesticated in some sense. Even some men love to cook. There are a lot of home shows and cooking shows with people who care about their home. I just never wanted to fully admit how I felt, because of the negativity I would get from people. The way these people would come at me, you would think I committed a crime.

On any given day, when I have down time, I love window shopping on the web of course (before I got out) for anything that’s home related. Even thought I hate malls, I always gravitate towards the home stores, (The perfect date for me would be home depot or lowes, LOL) it’s empty a lot of the times but its peaceful. I go there and feel the fabric, touch the pillows, look at the colors. I wonder how it would feel on my skin once I’m in bed. It’s just pure bliss!

Don’t take me to a kitchen store, being there is like disneyland for me, LOL.. Good luck getting me out of there, lol. I envision having my own line of home goods and cookware, of course I’ll name it after my angel mom in heaven. I am the way I am because of her. Thank you mommy :). My mom never had to tell me to clean or cook. It was pretty much innate some of the things. The first thing my mom taught me how to make was rice. I always make the perfect rice, I love to see people enjoy my food. There’s never one grain of rice left in the pot, LOL.

If only you can see my bookmarks and pinterest boards with all the things, I’ve saved and searched for when it comes to home life, you would laugh at me. My inbox is filled with emails from home stores. My youtube searches are all food related. I especially love Onieda flatware. Mikasa is the best too and better homes and gardens. But this is what puts my mind at ease, I enjoy it! Home shopping is therapy to me, not shoes and make-up or frivolous things (no offense to anyone). Since I’m a homebody it would only make sense to have everything I need in my home especially when it comes to my dream kitchen and bathroom.

That is the one thing, I am not compromising on when I buy my dream home. As from my previous articles, I’m always mentioning something, that is considered domesticated, especially when it comes to women cooking and cleaning. I’m never going to waver from that. I’m not saying that’s all to a woman, but it’s a part of it, especially since we bare children. We have to be nurturing, its needed in our home. Your home should be your sanctuary. A place where you can relax and be at peace.

It shouldn’t be disorganized and filthy and dishes piled up for months, beds not made, floor not mopped and laundry not done. It shouldn’t smell either. When your home is clean, it should make you feel good. I know quite a few people, who don’t know how to keep house and nor do they care too, but I also see other areas of their life in turmoil. There’s no loving energy there…it doesn’t have that home feel to it. There’s no balance, no structure, no discipline and most importantly God is not there.

Someone once told me that I would make the “perfect housewife”  because of how I love home life, as if that’s all there is to me. I’m this way because I’m just this way, not for a man. I’m pretty sure one day how I am, a man would appreciate it, and If I had kids they would grow up in a nurturing environment, but I’m not grooming myself to be the perfect wife or mother. I took offense to that because that’s not all there is to a woman. What I love and enjoy some women don’t.

Seeing that clip of Linda Cobb just gave me the freedom, to express this side of me and not be ashamed about it. I love buying a new plates to put my food on. It makes my food look appealing since most people eat with their eyes first. I get excited when I see home appliances, LOL.. Ok, so what if I like to vacuum, LOL. I always have, since I was 11. So what if I like to do laundry. I love the way my microplush sheets smell and when they are up against my naked body. It helps me sleep better and that’s nothing to be ashamed about!

What are your thoughts, do you love a clean home. Do you enjoy cooking? What home goods do you love to shop for? Thank you for reading and remember the kitchen is the heart of the home 🙂

Food Is An Intimate Thing

IMG_4587Food …..we all love to eat right? That first bite up until the last…is a very indulging moment for us. I don’t know about you, but food is a very intimate thing for me. It turns me on, all those savory flavors…It’s enough to put you in a sensual mood….I’m amazed at my skills when I make something and all the flavors marry together so well. Food is an art, its all about creation.

As a child, I thought my mom was a magician in the kitchen, the way she would make things from scratch, with whatever we had and make it taste so good. Aren’t moms the best!!… Well at least the ones that enjoy cooking because some don’t. I can’t wait to cook for my future love, as I miss cooking for someone. Watching him take that first bite is going to bring me so much Joy. I’m excited just thinking about it :)….Cooking shouldn’t feel like, you’re going to the electric chair, LOL. It shouldn’t be met with disdain. It’s meant to be enjoyed. It’s meant to nourish your mind, body and soul.

Food is a such an intimate thing. Food taste even better when you make it with love. I seriously think society needs to fall back in love and enjoy being in the kitchen again and eating at the table…Home economics needs to make a comeback as well. I enjoy watching people take their first bite of my food. The look in their eyes, priceless!!! I never knew my food was that good, until I saw people fighting over, who was going to eat the last empanadas I made and my lasagna.  I didn’t know it was that deep or serious that you wanna slap someone over it, LOL.

As some of you know from my previous article. I’m not the type to pay for a meal, I’m to frugal… some of us do but to each is own. When I’m hungry, my first thing to do is see what I have in the fridge, then go to the grocery store. Everything we want to eat, believe it or not, is at the market. There really is no need for us to pay for a meal, when we can make the same thing, if not better at home.

A friend of mine said he wanted to take me out to breakfast….I said to him, “you better make me breakfast,” lol or a smoothie. I was curious to know, what my friend is going to buy at breakfast, that we can’t go to the grocery store and make or that you don’t already have in your refrigerator. When he mentioned the things he eats, I don’t even eat that. I would be watching him eat lol, which is what usually happens when someone takes me out.

I never knew people bought breakfast….I remember when I first saw breakfast being offered in restaurants and fast food places…I was shocked especially at the prices. I thought everybody made breakfast at home, because that’s how I was raised. I said to myself, people actually pay for bacon and eggs?? Are these bacon and eggs that special that they cost this much?? What’s in it?? Judge me if you want, but I really thought that, that was just lazy, I just did. To get dressed, drive somewhere and waste gas for breakfast.

I’m a homebody, it’s hard for me to leave the house. 5 years ago, a friend of mine tricked me into eating out with her. I took my breakfast home. She thought I was crazy and called me weird, because I don’t like to eat out, let alone be around a whole bunch of strangers. How can I enjoy my meal around a whole bunch of strangers, when food to me is an intimate thing. It should be shared with someone that you actually want to break bread with. I didn’t want to eat with her, because she talks to much and I can never enjoy my food.

I remember when I was 17, after church a family friend took me to Ihop. Then at 32 (Yeah big time frame and age gap,) she did the same thing, except this time she picked it up to go. I woke up to store bought pancakes. SMDH!  They didn’t even taste that good, I can tell when something taste frozen and not fresh. Standing there, waiting to be seated, made me really frustrated. I couldn’t believe that we were waiting for pancakes, the look on my face, ( if only those straight face, confused emojis, were invented back then.) And not only that the place was packed.

All that time we waited, I could have made us both a meal. I wasn’t even hungry by the time the food came. I just wanted to go home. I just thought to myself, thank you mom for teaching me how to cook. I said to myself wow, this woman has not one domestic bone in her body. This woman does not cook, she’ll burn water. Her poor children. When I was in LA, I got spoiled going to my favorite store “fresh and easy”, that they recently shut down. When I saw I could buy avocados, a 4-pack for $2.50. I was like I gotta move here, LOL ..oh and the beaches, LOL A 4- pack of avocados on the east coast, is damn near almost $6.

That to me is ridiculous! I was spoiled for those 18 days I spent there knowing, I could have fresh food whenever I wanted it. My eyes lit up when my cousin told me, they had a farmers markets twice a week. She laughed at me. I spent $20 bucks one time and got a lot of stuff. I silently told myself. “LA, I’m relocating”..going to the market, I get all excited, it gives me a rush, like a kid in a candy store, just like some women get a rush to buy shoes, (sorry not my thing).

Gathering in the kitchen to cook and eat with love ones, listening to music and engaging in conversation, is what love and family should be all about. You just can’t have those precious moments at a restaurant or a fast food joint. I’m not saying one has to cook every day because I don’t (thats what food prep for the week is for) but when I do, I enjoy every minute of it it!! And you should too. If you are blessed to have loved ones in your life, open the fridge, put on some music and express your love through food and make sure its healthy..but it’s ok to indulge every now and then 🙂 Food should always be treated as an intimate thing.

 

 

Nothing Like A Home Cooked Meal

There is truly nothing like a home cooked meal. Whether its breakfast, lunch or dinner…All that love… all that flavor…the smell of fresh banana bread, home made cookies….Home cooked meals, we all loved them right? Especially when someone else makes them…..Isn’t that why we love our moms cooking, isn’t that why we go home for the holidays?

When I’m in the kitchen preparing a meal, I really do not understand why some people, do not enjoy the art of cooking. I’ve heard men say occasionally, that they do not like to cook or don’t know how, but are willing to learn. But I hear a lot of expressed hatred from some women, that they do not like to cook, because they just don’t like it and because of the dishes, so they avoid it and prefer take out and frozen dinners. A friend of mine takes her kids out for dinner at McDonalds several times a week. #SAD

I feel like microwave ovens should be banned. It’s making people lazy. It’s moving away from the whole family tradition. Back in the day you had to sit down and eat with your family. Now everyone eats in their room or in front of the tv or with their electronic device. When I hear that women do not like to cook, especially if they have children, this concerns me, because how are you going to feed your child?!

I always cooked for my niece and nephew. I never in my life gave them fast food. I recall when my nephew was 5, he wanted Mcdonalds. He wanted a burger and fries. I said I’ll make you a burger and fries. He cried. lol.. oh well, I wasn’t spending my hard earn money on fast food. His grandmother, always gave him McDonalds and so did my sister. That he didn’t know what a home cooked meal was. I didn’t give into this child. I made him what he wanted and he ate it and liked it. My thing was, eat it or starve. He chose to eat, LOL. Parents you’re the adult here.

I was at a friends house cooking, and her friends daughter came up to me and asked me what was I doing. And I said cooking, she said what’s that? I said what’s what? She said cooking? It took me a second to figure out that she was asking me about actually cooking. I thought she was asking me, what I was cooking, not what I was doing. I guess it threw her off because when I asked her, was she hungry and got up to cook, she thought I was going to use the microwave, but I pulled out some pans and turned on the stove.

She said to me, my mom doesn’t cook, she uses the microwave. Her mom said that she’s tired and that’s what microwaves are for but her kids eat and they are not starving. A six year child should know what a home cooked meal is. That pretty much hurt me, because whenever a child is in my presence, I always ask them if they are hungry and feed them and 10 times out of 10 they usually are.

Then I hear from their mothers that their child is being greedy. That’s not really my concern, but when I hear a child say they are hungry, my instinct is to immediately feed them. I know that crap they give them at school is not nutritious and healthy at all. When I fed that little girl, she came back for seconds and thanked me and gave me a hug. The smile on her face, priceless! Then when she left she ran over to me again and hugged me and said thank you again. I saw the look on her mothers face, she didn’t look happy.

Food is love. Food is what love taste like.

Children feel loved and cared for when you cook for them. Her mother joked that I should come to her house and cook everyday, because she doesn’t have the time. When they left, the little girl was on my mind. I wondered what she eats everyday. I know she’s eating crap at school and crap at home and that bothers me. I pray that her mother gets it together and cooks for her daughter. My friend told me her friend said thank you, but that she got this. I could only imagine how she said it. Apparently you don’t ”got this” because you’re not cooking for your child.

There are people without a home or without their mother, that can’t enjoy a home cooked meal. So when someone has the blessing of a job, to have money, to buy food, to have a home and they don’t cook, something is truly wrong with this picture. Because there are a lot of people wishing right now, that they can have a home cooked meal or go home and they are missing their mothers cooking. I know I miss mines.

I recall when I was looking for my first apartment, that I came across apartments, that didn’t have a kitchen. Yup, no kitchen. Not even a refrigerator, nothing. I asked how am I suppose to eat? I cook. The landlord said, we don’t allow cooking in here. But you are welcome to have a microwave and that there are alot eateries around here. I looked at that landlord as if she was on crack. I would not rent an apartment or stay anywhere unless there is a kitchen there and a gas stove.

A friend of mine offered to take me out to breakfast….hmmm not sure how thats going to happen, lol because I don’t go out for breakfast…unless its fresh fruit or a smoothie, then I can get with that.. but if its more than that. I’m going to be picky because I really don’t see the point, in going out for breakfast when I can make the same thing.

I recall a family friend woke me up and said “heres breakfast. It was in a box and not on a plate. It was from the damn Ihop. Not only that, she spent close to $50 on pancakes along with eggs and sausage. (insert straight face confused emoji). That to me is just pure laziness… to get dressed, waste gas for pre made heated breakfast. You mean to tell me, you couldn’t buy some flour, some eggs, blueberries, sausage and eggs?? You had to go pick it up. I honestly do not see how this family member of mine is married to a woman like that.

This is not the first time, she bought food, she did this back in 95 after coming from church. Sunday dinners everyone looks forward to that after church, this woman bought KFC and boston market. Calling me, talking about dinner is served. I looked at that woman like she was crazy. My mom when she was alive would have never done that. She had five mouthes to feed. But this woman never learned to cook. Her sons never knew what a home cooked meal was until I cooked.

I seriously wish that this generation, would get back to how our mothers and ancestors did it back in the day. There were no restaurants or fast food joints. It was grown on the land and fresh. Food was made from scratch. More and more people are getting sick and overweight because they are eating out. Food is everywhere but it’s the type of food, we’re eating.

Society really needs to get back to home cooked meals, because the kitchen is truly the heart of the home.

Really??!! Get your ass in the kitchen, lol.

Is cooking really that difficult??!!! Some people seem to struggle with the most simple dishes…

I saw a woman on youtube struggling to make a salad and she asked if she could microwave it, LMAO.. ..who microwaves a salad. Salads are suppose to be cold. I know quite a few females that don’t cook at all and some men.. Everything is in the microwave. I don’t see how someone cooks rice in the microwave ?!! Or pizza, lol?? Pizza stores don’t deliver microwaved pizzas so why are humans doing it… How you put dough in the microwave???!! I feel like microwave instructions should be banned from labels because some people literally take it to a whole new level.

They want to use it for everything. Microwaves kill food. I can see if you have to use one, for a minute or so like at work but still.They sell those toaster ovens that can heat up your food. That’s just lazy. A guy asked me how do you cook franks, lol. I saw a commercial talking about, you can bake a cake in the microwave. OMG, Really, I thought it was very comical. I bought a toaster oven at this job I was at and my boss reimbursed me…lol… (People putting their smelly food in the microwave.. I usually bring food that requires no heating but thats just me)  Microwaves are making people lazy…  When I see a persons cookware and its all scratched up I’m like ok, you don’t cook do you, lol. A $15 pot set is not going to produce quality food. Cooking is fun and creative, you get to put a lot of love in it.

You can even get romantic while cooking. It can be sexy and fun with some music..(insert sexy grin) You can bond over food. You can’t bond over a microwaved meal or take out…or even a meal at a restaurant… It’s to noisy… I would really like to know why people are not cooking nowadays.. Some may not agree but when I see a woman in the store, buying everything thats microwaved, I have no respect for that. Those poor kids or child, who have to eat that. As a woman with or without kids, you should be able to feed yourself and your child..

When my niece and nephew were young and they came over, I always cooked for them, even when they wanted fast food. I just gave them that look like, “I don’t think so, lol…. give me that look all you want, it’s not happening, lol”  I don’t cave into a child, I’m the adult and a lot of women do…. But once the food was done they enjoyed it. I love how they remembered the food I cooked for them even as teens.. Its all in how you raise your child. I never bought them take out or fast food. I was told by a family member that if I ever had kids, they would suffer, because I wouldn’t let them eat crap or have fun, Really!!! I let them have doritos, thats it, lol.. but not junk disguised as food. I gave them granola bars as a snack at times and maybe some ice cream but thats it, lol.

I’m not spending $10-$15 on fast food when I can buy food with that, and make the same thing even better. Who knows how long that food has been sitting out or where it came from or what’s in it. If one is to busy, prepare your meals in advance. When I see the amount of money people spend on food at a restaurant or fast food joints,. It’s a total waste of money… I’m like really get your ass in the kitchen and stop being lazy.

It takes forever for me to order when I’m out, I need days in advance to prepare, if I know someone is taking me out to eat, lol… I take so long because I don’t eat out… I like my food cooked a certain type of way. A restaurant is not going to use white wine to cook my rice or red wine with my BBQ sauce or agave nectar…. Yummmm, I feel like cooking now :), lol…They are not going to put that much love, attention or detail into my food.. I’m not saying there are no good restaurants, but I don’t know where they are, lol.. Don’t ask for a recommendation…. you’ll hear birds chirping, I’ll look at you like you’re speaking another language, lol…I couldn’t recommend anything, but I can tell you where to buy the food and ingredients at 🙂 Or I just might cook it for you.

It’s the same with juice, I don’t buy juice I make it. If I don’t buy it, I drink water…. I’m not spending my money on pasteurized killed juice… We really need to get back to fresh food and juice and real stoves with gas, not those electric wire ones, those things should be extinct. Why do apartments even have those??? What year is this???  Back in the day our ancestors didn’t use microwaves. We need to get back to the original… I feel the same way about music, wheres the real R&B at ?? All these crappy ass artist…  oh sorry, lol.. I went on a rant….lol…thats another topic, lol…back to what I was saying…..If you love and care for someone, cook for them 🙂