We’ve all heard the saying “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. Well this saying is very true, when a man is looking to settle down and raise a family. I hear a lot from men, that they meet women who don’t like cooking or even enjoy it.
I don’t understand this because I love it! A woman not being able to cook, is a deal breaker for most men. Regardless if he knows how to cook or not. Some women can’t understand this. Todays modern or “independent” woman, would like to debate on this topic. I hear all the time, “I’m not his mother” and “the man I marry needs to know how to cook too“. Ok… if that’s what you want, but this article is not about what you want. It’s about what he wants.
Ok if you say you’re not his mother. Well he’s not your father to be spoiling you, like a daddy’s girl. But yet he’s the man and you expect him to provide right and spend his hard money on you?? Hmmm….did I hit a soft spot?!! I think I did…. Let that marinate….
If you are a stay at home mom, and your husband is working. What is the problem with making sure he has a home cooked meal, when he comes home and even sitting down as a family and having dinner together?! If a man afforded me that privilege, I’d be in the kitchen everyday, Cooking up gourmet meals. I’d probably move my bed in there and sleep in there, LOL..
My mom said I was born at the hospital, but I honestly think she had me in the kitchen, LOL 🙂 oh back to what I was saying…..
I’m all for women being liberal and independent, but you have to draw the line somewhere. If you don’t like cooking or being domesticated in some sense, then don’t have kids and don’t get married. Cooking is a requirement when it comes to raising a family and being someones spouse.
Men love women who can cook, because it shows them that you are nurturing. If a woman plans to get married and have kids. Her mate would like to know, that she would be able to care for their child and for him as well. When a child is hungry, whose the first person they go to? Their mother. Women breastfeed for a reason.
It’s our responsibility to feed our family.
I’ve witness a lot of women at the market, committing shopping crimes, throwing microwaveable meals in their cart and I just feel sorry for the child and this lady’s significant other, if she even has one. No child should be subjected to microwave food. It’s very unhealthy.
When a woman says she doesn’t like cooking, that’s just a deal breaker. Just like when a man says he doesn’t have a job or he still lives at home with his momma, lol. Women don’t even give this type of man a chance. So don’t be surprised if he doesn’t give you a chance. If you don’t throw down in the kitchen, then you can’t really be looked at as “wife material”.
If you have time to get your nails done, time to do your make-up, go shopping, spend a lot of time getting your hair done, you have time to cook for your man and family. If you can put effort into making sure you look good. You can put effort into cooking or learning, if you don’t know how. In this age of technology we have you tube and pinterest.
Don’t throw stones at me, LOL…..Now I’m not saying that’s all a wife or women are. But it’s a big part of it. Just like it’s the man role to provide or you provide for each other. Nothing wrong with some extra money in the bank right?! As hard as men try to come off, they really want to be taken care of too and by you cooking for them, it’s showing your love for him. That you took the time to prepare a meal. It’s also a sign of gratitude. A man feels appreciated.
Your man has been out there, grinding, making that cheddar….Ladies you gotta feed a brotha, LOL. Don’t make him eat those hungry man microwaveable dinners lol. Who knows how long that frozen dinner, has been in the freezer. You should enjoy cooking for your man, especially the look and gratitude you receive, when he takes that first bite and cleans his plate, LOL :).
You know after dinner he’s coming for dessert and you will be the main course :)..
A woman recently asked me, should she fix her man a plate of food. I was quite baffled by this. I wrote about it, but it confused the hell out of me, LOL… but she was serious. That’s like asking should I feed my child or myself? I’ve said this several times and I’ll say it again. I’m old school, my mom cooked every day, so I don’t do fast food. I’m a woman who cooks and it’s so much healthier to prepare your own meals.
Not only for yourself, but for your family as well. This shouldn’t even be up for debate. It doesn’t matter how educated you are and that you make your own money, that’s nice (insert straight face emoji lol) what do you want an award?? But what the hell does that have to do with feeding your family?? Throw that independent B.S. out the window!
Unless your man is rich and you can hire a chef, your man is going to require, that you get you ass in the kitchen and cook a home cooked meal. I remember that episode when Martin came home and Gina was home all day and he she didn’t cook anything except for herself. The look on his face, like are you serious! He came through the door, he didn’t smell nothing cooking. So he opened the stove, nothing, not even left overs.
He said you been home all day and you didn’t cook anything? She said oh I ate already. She had him eating down at Nipsey’s. Martin was starving, LOL. I been there, working for 12 hours or more, came home, tired, wanting a home cooked meal, my ex didn’t make nothing, he either ate or waited for me to cook something. But yet i cooked for him….. Notice I said ex.
Being able to throw down in the kitchen is just sexy to a man. Who wouldn’t want to come home to a hot home cooked meal after a long day. Take out is not the same thing, neither is cold cuts or microwaveable meals…so don’t go there.. I find it sexy when a man knows how to cook too and some men do enjoy being in the kitchen.
The kitchen is the heart of the home. It’s where you nourish your body. Men want women to understand this!
Men are quite simple creatures, lol… you cook for him, he’ll do anything you want, lol and you don’t even have to ask. Hell, cook naked while you’re at it, LOL, with an apron on of course, make it fun and sexy :). turn on some music…it will spice of your relationship… it will help you connect too..after dinner who doesn’t want to have dessert :). Be each others food…..Oh I went there….ok before this gets to spicy, lol…
Yes, it’s 2016 about to be 2017, no one is sending you back to the 1950s, so stop being so defensive…but men would like for more women to be more traditional, that’s not such a bad thing when you think about it… So ladies if you have a good man, who loves you and provides, show some appreciation and cook for him :)…Good food can lead to some sexy things 🙂
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