Naked…..Love The Skin You’re In

Do you love yourself? I mean do you really love the skin you’re in? I was lying in bed on my micro-plush sheets, just reveling on how good the sheets felt against my naked skin.

My music volume was up and I felt the lyrics traveling on and throughout my body. Hmmm, you didn’t know music could do that huh? Yes, it does but you gotta be naked in order for you to feel it :).

More people should love to be naked but yet some don’t. I never understood that at the end of the day, after your body has been in clothes all day. That when one comes home and relaxes. Then takes a shower.

As soon as you get out of the shower you put on clothes again. It doesn’t make any sense. Your skin needs to breathe. Every part of your body needs to breathe.

Once I’m in for the night and someone asks me to go somewhere. I’m actually debating on whether or not should I go. Going out requires me to put on clothes and that just doesn’t sound fun for me, lol. It better be worth it if I have to get dressed after I just finish freeing my skin. Ok, I get that some of you may have kids and you don’t have the freedom to walk around naked like single people.

After the kids go to sleep, lock your door and get out of your clothes, got dammit, lol! Be free! Love the skin in you’re in. Look in the mirror and love the beautiful vessel, that God blessed you with and be good to it too. There is no such thing as the perfect body, if you don’t like the body you have you can always change it.

The body is an amazing machine. Be good to it and it will be good to you. Get naked and look into your soul and just love the image that is staring back at you. If you don’t love yourself, ask yourself why? We all have our insecurities things we need to work on.

There can be many things going on in our life, that can make us not feel beautiful or sexy in the skin that we’re in. There was a time I didn’t feel attractive. Men, for the longest, used to say things about my body and even family members and friends and it made me feel very self-conscious.

To the point that I would try to cover up every chance, I’d get. I didn’t notice at times I was doing this until people pointed it out to me. I would go into the store and find something to cover my hips and butt. I would wear baggy pants to cover my legs. I went through my whole Aaliyah phase when I was a teen. Only wearing a body suit and the rest of my clothes was baggy. Still wanting to be feminine but not draw so much attention.

I felt ashamed of being a woman with curves. I wished that I could look like a little girl and felt cursed for developing so quick. I wanted people to see I had a brain. I wanted people to see past my physical. Being “attractive” was not having a positive effect on me at all. It made me feel smaller and smaller and at times I wondered what does that even mean?

When I saw that other women felt the same way and when I saw them embrace their bodies. It gave me the courage to embrace mine. To embrace being a woman. I’m not naive. I know we’re visual creatures but when that’s all people see is how you look, it makes you feel invisible. I had to get to a point where I really felt comfortable in my skin. I had to love myself more. This didn’t happen until I was in my late twenties, damn near 30.

When it comes to men, I never cared for the attention because it was always negative with very few positives. I just wanted one person to fall in love, with my naked soul and see that I was beautiful on the inside than out. I dated a guy, my first love who treated me like a lady and made me feel special and beautiful, just by the way he looked at me. Just by the way he held me and kissed me.

I got the chance to just be a woman and stay in my feminine space and not made to feel like a piece of meat. But reality kicked in and I realized that all men were not like him. Being naked is not just about how you look on the outside. It’s about how you feel on the inside which radiates on the outside. I feel like more men need to tap into their sensual side to awaken that energy that women need.

And more women need to stay in their feminine space and not try to be in masculine space. The yin and the yang are needed for both sexes to feel more naked. But when you don’t love yourself, how can you feel sensual and romantic. I tell people and mainly couples all the time, TAKE OFF YOUR CLOTHES!! LOL. I don’t own a lot of clothes but I like to keep things sensual and romantic for myself.

But when you are with someone the body is meant to be touched and massaged. Couples are not caressing one another and I think it’s sad. We have a problem with intimacy and sensuality in this world for whatever reason. People are confusing it with lust and sex and its not the same thing. Loving the skin you’re in and being naked makes you feel sensual. It makes you feel beautiful. It makes you feel like a woman!

If your blessed enough to have a lover in your life. Sleep naked more or wear lingerie. Stop going to bed looking like you are mad at one another. Ladies take that scarf off for a few nights or at least don’t wear it when he’s around or wants to be intimate. Physical attraction is important. It is! Remember when the two of you first got together and how you looked and how you kept yourself well groomed, continue to do that.

Stay attractive for one another, Infuse yourself in each other’s bodies. Touch each other. Make love without saying a word or without penetration. Look at each other and look deep within each others soul. Hug, hold hands. Just listen to one another’s heartbeat. Don’t let the intimacy and passion run or leak out the door. It can still be salvaged. Get physical got dammit!, lol. Don’t be afraid to speak your needs and wants and feel safe. That to me is intimacy, passion, and ecstasy!