Some women say they do, but I don’t think a lot of women have any idea, of what it really means for a man to truly lead under God’s supervision and his innate intuition. Women don’t trust men to really lead them in life, when it comes to certain areas and to make decisions. Some women feel like they are taking a step back into the 1950s. Some women feel if a man leads, they will be subservient to him. Or maybe even lose their independence. The fear of engulfment is a fear as well.
Letting a good man lead is not about being subservient, not having your own mind, or letting someone control your thoughts and every move. Women who get upset at this notion clearly have it all wrong. There are some men who want to lead, JUST to control a woman but that’s not a good man. I’m talking about a REAL good man, which I’ll continue to reiterate.
I personally think that there is beauty and a certain kind of organic and sexy protectiveness, when it comes to masculine energy and letting a man lead and protect you. When a man is a MAN and he’s masculine at his core, its just sexy. A woman can be feminine at her core and submit, when her man is able to lead her.
“Comfort of a man” by Stephanie Mills is one my favorite songs and she clearly gets it.
Pay attention to the lyrics…
“Nothing understands, like the comfort of a man”… Oh! Back to what I was saying!
Women can learn a lot from that particular song. Here’s my personal take on letting a man lead. Maybe you’ll agree, maybe you won’t. The only way you will be open, to this natural way of being, is if you take the time to really know yourself and know what it truly means to be feminine. Women by nature are feminine and nurturing.
We just are.
I feel like somewhere a long the way, women are losing touch with their femininity and nurturing side and morphing into men. There is a power struggle going on. Educated women think they have cojones. I’ve seen women throw their education in a man’s face. They’re very proud in an egotistical way. I’m very educated, I have my own mind, and I love being independent and making my own money. But at the end of the day, when I come home, I’m not bringing that masculine energy of being in control into my home. I’m not a man.
Only a real man that is highly evolved will know how to lead a woman. A man of faith. A man Of God. Men are suppose to balance a woman in a loving way and women are suppose to balance men in a nurturing way. There is nothing wrong with letting a good man lead. Just because you let a man take the leading role, doesn’t mean that he will not seek your guidance, as well. Nowadays some women want to make all the decisions, be sassy and don’t give a man a say so, and they’re just like “hand me your ATM card!”
Just because you let a man lead, doesn’t mean that you can’t have your own life and do your own thing. This doesn’t mean you are giving up your all your independence. A good man will know how to nurture that side of you. A good man that wants to lead does not want a slave. This is not about being a “YES” woman at all.
This is not a religious POV. I don’t subscribe to that. Knowing your role in life, can only come with developing a strong relationship with God and knowing yourself. A lot of this is already innate. We just have to get back to it. I feel like a lot of people struggle in relationships because of this. I hear from so many men, that their woman is acting like a man. She’s trying to emasculate me in my own home. Women are trying to lead. A real man, that knows his role, is going to have a problem with that. Some women treat their man like a child. No man likes to be reprimanded in his own home.
Some people don’t know what their role is and how to complement someone else’s life. People go into a relationship with a list of wants and needs. Instead of looking at it like, what can I offer this person and how can we grow together and build something? When two people don’t look at it like this and their needs/wants are not met, we get mad at the other person. It starts with you. You have to give to get from both sides. You have to know why you’re there and what you can bring to the table.
When it comes to a man leading, I just innately know that it is his role in life. Men are supposed to provide and protect. Men are men for a reason. God built men a certain way for a reason. Men are supposed to be physically strong and exude masculinity. Men are supposed to work and make sure their family has a roof over their head. When a man is not evolved and not exuding masculinity, women sense this.
I think this is the reason why some women don’t like nice guys, because they feel that nice guys are not masculine enough and that they are a pushover. Some women will go as far as emasculating men when they feel he is being to “feminine”. I’m not saying nice guys are not masculine, but according to these women, they are not “rough or manly enough”. (I think this is total nonsense). These women that think this way need help!
I know several women, who have confessed that they want a man to lead them. They got married and had children for the wrong reasons because they thought this is what women are “supposed” to do. They had no clue who they were marrying. They didn’t even know who they were. Their spouses didn’t know who they were, either. So you have two people who are not fully cognizant of who they are and why they want to get married. Then when these women develop a relationship with God and get to know themselves. They’re like “Wait a minute! My husband is supposed to be leading me?!”
Some of these women might as well be single, because they do everything and kind of lose respect for their significant other.
If your single and independent then a man leading does not really apply, unless the two of you work that out on another level. Not everyone is religious. You have some men who want to be the head of the house and lead and they are not even married to you and don’t have any plans to marry you. Those type of men abuse their authority if they have a good woman. A man of God is suppose to consult with God and be the disciplinarian in the household. It’s a known fact that children fear their fathers in a way, more than their mothers.
I’ve seen a lot of my friends children, run all over their mother and listen to their father. A woman I know thats in a same sex relationship, with a very dominate masculine woman, said that she’s the disciplinarian, she brings that masculine energy into the home. She allows her to be “the man” and really thinks she is a man. She wanted a male presence in her home, and decided she couldn’t find a good man, so she was open to a butch female. That’s some confusing shit, LOL.. I’m sorry it is. It doesn’t matter how masculine a woman tries to act. She will never be a male, or disciplinarian or lead a household especially if she gave birth to several kids.
So even in a same sex relationship, there is a need for masculine energy and presence. Lesbian women know this. This woman plays more of the subservient role in her relationship, she’s a yes woman, she was this way with men, now she’s this way with a woman. Her lover confessed that she hates being a woman, because she see’s women as the weaker sex. So she wanted a docile woman so she could play the man and be in control. They actually had a conversation about who was going to be the man and the woman in the relationship, but they are both women. Alriiiiiiiighty then!!! Now I’m confused, LOL…It’s simply impossible. All of this to negate the male presence needed in life.
When it comes to equality, yes women can probably do the same things men can do or hold their positions, like when it comes to really demanding strenuous jobs. But why would you want to?? Why would you as a delicate feminine woman, want to be in control and masculine all the time?? To prove what?? That you can protect yourself. That you are strong, that you can do a man’s job? I personally don’t know why a woman would want to a police officer or a firefighter. To each is own but come on. Call me sexist if you want, but thats a man’s job. A woman shouldn’t be jumping into buildings, and chasing down the bad guys like a man. Women are not physically fit like men.
When I was younger, I thought about going to the army but not to fight. I thought about school and to be a nurse and to help the wounded. To heal and nurture these men post war. To offer my support. To be a listening ear. Not be in the battlefield. We’ve all seen women who take on that masculine role and act manly and that is not attractive. Tapping too much into masculine energy is not good for several reasons. It makes you look hard. It throws your hormones off too, BIG TIME! Women, when we step outside of our feminine grace, it makes us look unattractive. Not just to a man, but to ourselves.
If you have kids its even more confusing. I seen my mother be both mom and dad, even with my father in the house. This taught me to have less respect for my father as a man and to not need him, EVER. This taught me to never depend on a man to provide and protect. I had to unlearn this and learn to trust the male presence in life. People used to tell me I looked intimidating and I never saw it, men told me this a lot. I had my guard up, before they even opened up their mouth. My answers were always short and curt. I was always ready to defend myself in anyway, because of how my father treated me. My tone and look alone would make a man bleed.
Take for example when we raise our voice, our voice is soft for a reason. Our soft tone is suppose to calm a man down. Our voice is meant to soothe. When we raise our pitch it makes us look like men. Men need us to be graceful and act like a lady. Not curse like a sailor. I’m not the arguing type, I can remain calm when I have something to say. It’s not in my nature to argue, if I find myself feeling like I’m about to raise my voice, I’ll just take a deep breath, it’s not to say that I don’t get upset, but I’m not going to raise my voice, unless I feel threatened to do so. Men have deep voices for a reason, women don’t.
There is a stern and calmness in a man’s voice that he uses in everyday life to be a man, make decisions, and how he handles his woman when it comes to being romantic. Women think that some men can’t handle a strong woman with her own mind. Some can, the ones that can’t are insecure. But the reason why men are attracted to you as a woman in the first place, is because you exude femininity. When a woman acts like a man, that is a huge turn-off. If a guy wants to do guy things, then he will do it with the guys, not with his woman. Men need feminine energy just as much as women need masculine energy.
Men for the most part, do not mind giving a woman what she desires, but women have to stop demanding it. That’s where the problem comes in. When a woman is feminine at her core, nurturing, and stands by her man, helps him, he in return wants to give her what she wants and needs. In a relationship (marriage if that’s what you choose), a man wants his wife to trust and believe in him. When men feel like you trust them, it gives them a sense of empowerment to be the best, that they can be for you and if you have a family.
When it comes to making decisions, I for one, trust men’s logical way of thinking, when I want my own logic challenged. If I feel I’m going to make an emotional decision. I will seek a man’s guidance at times. I’m not saying women can’t make sound decisions, but for the most part, they’re emotionally based. Men don’t make decisions based off their emotions, women do!
I feel like, If I’m in a healthy relationship with a good man who loves me, provides, protects me, makes sure I’m secure, takes care of me on an emotional level, and he’s a spiritual man of God. Why wouldn’t I shower him back with that same love that’s nurturing? Why wouldn’t I cook for him (and our family) and make sure he has something to eat every day and that our home is clean and peaceful?
I just think that it’s selfish when a woman doesn’t cook or show her appreciation towards a good man, but she will show her appreciation towards a bad one that’s not doing anything for her. This is not about being docile at all. I just happen to love cooking and having a clean home. It’s makes me feel good at the end of the day. Our nurturing energy is needed in our home.
I can’t function in a house that’s out of order. It’s not because it would make me “wife material”. It’s just in my nature. It should be in all women’s nature too, especially since we bear children. Women who don’t cook and take care of their home, shows how they will raise their children. I used to know several women who didn’t cook and clean and I really don’t have any respect for that. Their kids picked up these same bad habits. I like a man who can cook too, but that’s not really a man’s thing all the time.
But in the same token, men should share some of the responsibility too when it comes to chores. I feel like some women just want the ring, baby, and that lifestyle and then after that, they don’t even cater to their husbands anymore. If he’s busting his ass every day, so that you can live a comfortable life and stay home, if you choose, why wouldn’t you take care of your home?! That’s you’re way of contributing and showing your appreciation.
In conclusion, I just prefer a man to lead and I trust his guidance. Submission and letting a man lead is not subservient at all. It shouldn’t be looked at that way. It’s takes a strong woman to submit to a man to relinquish control, since we are taught to not need a man. By a man leading I get to be a feminine woman. It shouldn’t make me feel less of a woman because I prefer to stand beside my man, support him, and be his anchor when he needs me. If he’s nurturing my independence and doesn’t see it as a threat, why not?? Men, (the good ones) deal with a lot of crap every day and women really make it hard on them. At the end of the day, he just wants to relax and be in your graceful feminine energy.